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Feeling Lost Or Stuck In Life
Feeling Lost In Life Unsettled, immobilised or impotent in some ways, we may have lost our way in life, find it hard to bring our self back. We may be holding onto things which now hold us back, e.g. our regrets, refusing to grow up. Our wandering mind may be lost in thought. Struggling to see the wood for the trees, some of us may be lost in our thoughts, confused because we are overwhelmed, lack focus, yet our confusion may point to other things. Sometimes it can seem as if our will has blown off course or is trapped, as if we are living on automatic. Our feelings may not be as accessible to us, as we would like. At different stages in life we can lose our way, be unsure, uncomfortable, uncertain, not knowing anymore where we are going or what we want and may be seeking a structure, secure base. Some of our sense of lostness may also be of an existential nature.
The Truth is, we all get lost as we try to find our way.JaTawny Muckelvene Chatmon
Perhaps the key is to stop, take a look around and enjoy the scenery as we go.
Inner Fog, Drifting For some it can be as if we are in some sort of fog, swept along in life, sleepwalking along, as if something is missing, maybe in a state of inertia. This for some may point to feeling frozen inside, numbing our feelings (see also Difficult Feelings). Meandering along, going with the flow, we may also feel lost at sea with our emotions. Sometimes it can seem as if we are looking on, watching ourself from afar. For others it can be as if we have nothing to hold on to internally, have become adrift, struggling to steer our course, like a rudderless ship in the night, without an anchor, like a lost soul needing our own ground, balance, sense of personal boundaries, to trust our innateness. Echoes back in time may be affecting us now (see also Relationship Style, Attachment Patterns). Some may be holding on to misplaced loyalties, oaths, sacred cows which no longer support us. Fearful, we may be lost in some of our feelings, maybe disconnected, missing a sense of belonging, lost our focus, attention, concentration or have forsaken our self in some ways, be out of touch with our desires, passions, personal will, interactions. Finding ourselves through connections we make with others may support us.
Lost & Stuck Feeling lost inside, we may be feeling stuck in life, as if walking through glue, maybe detached, confused and unsure of our way forward, unfulfilled, needing to get in touch with our deepest sense of who we are, as if our very soul is lost, somewhere in the sands of time (and some of this may relate to being stuck in our painbody). Some of us may bypass, internalise our feelings, withhold and withdraw. What is happening in our unconscious may also point to finding ourselves. All this lostness, stuckness, may also impact upon our procrastination, sense of paralysis and struggles with change, affecting our vitality, emotional life, vulnerability & tenderness. Our lostness or lost focus, inability to make decisions may be connected to our approach - doing things the way we always do, yet we may be seeking another way, a different direction, which we have yet to find. Lost in our own world, we may be seeking a different path and to be in our own authority. Our sense of lostness may also point to lost values. Dawdling along, wanting to get back on track, it can be as if we need a different map, compass to support us - our own compass with a needle, to get back on the right road - our road, so we don't use others to give us a false reading, putting trust in us, listening to our what we sense, feel & be willing to explore new avenues. (Our compass can also be seen as letting us know what we are emotionally experiencing.) Counselling & psychotherapy can be a space to explore what all this means, finding our own way forward, some clarity, taking ownership of our life. (See also Our relationship, marriage may have become stuck, stale)
It is a joy to be hidden, but disaster not to be found.Donald Winnicott
Feeling Stuck In Life Lacking momentum or struggling to seize the day, move our body (see Physical Wellbeing - Body Vitality & Breathing), things may be stagnating inside. Stuck in limbo, indecision, stuck in a rut, stuck in our head and maybe stuck in London, have an unhealthy habit or addiction or feeling stuck in our relationship, we may want to connect more to our own inner direction. We may have numbed our feelings, closed off, shut down, bottled things up as if we feel frozen inside. A sense of resentment, disappointment, disillusionment, loss, grief or melancholia may be holding us back, especially if we stop ourselves grieving, releasing our emotions. We may feel stuck in life, stuck with certain familiar painful feelings, maybe apathy, feeling low, depressed at the exclusion of other feelings, stuck because we only see situations as problems, holding on to past failures or successes, struggling to let go of something, waiting for something to happen. Empty inside, we may be stuck in our old wounds, guilt, shame, unhelpful thoughts, beliefs or our identity that is not close to who we are. Some of us may be stuck, caught in wishful thinking, daydreaming, caught somewhere between our past, present, future. Questioning our life's achievements, our life may be rewarding yet unfulfilling. We may not feel fully engaged, lost our sense of purpose. We may have a sense of meaninglessness (see also Existential Therapy). Counselling & psychotherapy can offer support in exploring what may be emerging for us, our potency, opening up different perceptions, choices, yet first we may need to explore what keeps us stuck - our hooks, triggers, buttons which can get pressed, our attitude to risks, and how by resisting being stuck can end up compounding our stuckness.
Feeling stuck in life, feeling lost in life, stuck in a rut, stuck in limbo, feel hopeless and lost
Counselling Questions About Feeling Lost, Feeling Stuck in Life Some of us may have very specific questions, e.g.:
- Feeling lost - I am lost, I feel lost, what can I do? What to do when you feel lost in Life?
- I'm stuck - I'm stuck in limbo, stuck in a rut? Help me I'm stuck in life, what can I do?
- Feeling stuck - help me I'm stuck, what can I do?