Please note that I use the words "relationship counselling in London", "marriage counselling in London", "marriage psychotherapy in London", "relationship psychotherapy in London", "relationship psychotherapeutic counselling services", "marriage psychotherapeutic counselling servives", "relationship talking therapy", "marriage talking therapy" and also "marriage counsellor", "relationship counsellor London", "relationship psychotherapist London", "marriage psychotherapist", "relationship talking therapist" & "marriage talking therapist" interchangeably. I am trained & accredited as a marriage & relationship counsellor & psychotherapist in dealing with marriage problems & relationship problems, and I am happy to discuss their differences with you.
Please note, for relationship counselling, marriage counselling & marriage guidance I only see individuals who want to work through their own marriage or relationship problems.
I don't see couples for counselling.
Relationship Counselling, Marriage Counselling, Relationship Problems, Marriage Problems, Central London, Camden
Relationship Challenges Transformations
Should I Stay Or Should I Go?
Whether to be in the relationship or marriage, making it work, or whether to leave, present real & often painful dilemmas. These problems, alongside underlying issues, can be explored in counselling & psychotherapy. (See also Continuing Or Ending The Relationship Or Marriage)
Being Together In The Relationship Or Marriage
Sharing our Iife with someone is one of the greatest trials we face. We all get anxious when we're having problems in our relationships. To love, be loved & be happy together is a challenge to us all. For various reasons some of us experience struggles in our relationships. We can't seem to please or reach our partner – or they may struggle to reach or please us. We can be in control (see Our Sensitivities - Pushing Each Other's Buttons) in some aspects of our relationship yet not in others. Our level of involvement in our relationship, and how we are involved, can present real challenges. It is never too late to address these issues, before, during or after any crisis. Companionship, maturity & respect, willingness to invest energy into stretching ourseIves, and the relationship, to its fullest potential, are important.
The Challenges Ahead In The Relationship
Some people view their live & relationships like a journey. We may have to face painful challenges on the way to making the relationship work better & thrive. Obtaining help, further information & awareness about relationships early on & not just at crisis point, can for some save their relationships from enduring the pain of splitting up. We can be heart-broken in the relationship or after its ending. The dilemma of "should I stay in the relationship or end it" can be very real sometimes. "Getting by" & "making do" in the relationship, may no longer be enough. How, and whether, to revive it may be a challenge.
Relationship Transformation
Relationships evolve & have many phases, with sometimes difficult transitions. They ebb & flow in terms of emotions, interests & sense of ease. The relationship can be close & intimate in some moments, yet distant & separate in others. None of us are immune from the effects. The need to transform the relationship can bring its own dilemmas, which can call on us, or force us, to emotionally & sexually mature. The initial "magic" may have worn off and qualities, which were once endearing, may become annoying. It can be a challenge for some to weather the necessary adversities, disillusionment & acceptance for our partner, for who they are and how they've changed and indeed how we've changed. We can turn to our partner in the hope that they will fulfil all our needs.
As we change, or our partner changes, so too does the relationship. These transformations within us, our partner, and the relationship, are not always synchronised or harmonious. Our moods, availability, preferences, values, interests can now seem out of synchronisation. For some this might mean the beginning of the end of the relationship, yet for others this realisation can be an opportunity & challenge to adapt to a new & different phase of the relationship. Passion, arousal & enlivening sex may be a concern, where the spark may have disappeared from the sexual relationship. Desire & search for a deeper soul connection may be important. Joy, laughter, humour & fun may be absent. We may have chosen safety in our relationship, which may no longer be enough. The relationship may have changed to that of friendship only or like a parent/child or brother/sister. A challenge for some may be how to invigorate, enrich, nurture or accept their relationship.
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