Please note that I use the words "relationship counselling services London", "marriage counselling services London", "marriage psychotherapy London", "relationship psychotherapy London", "relationship psychotherapeutic counselling", "marriage psychotherapeutic counselling", "relationship talking therapy", "marriage talking therapy" and also "marriage counsellor London", "relationship counsellor London", "relationship psychotherapist London", "marriage psychotherapist London", "relationship talking therapist" & "marriage talking therapist" interchangeably. I am trained & accredited as a marriage & relationship counsellor & psychotherapist in dealing with marriage problems & relationship problems, separation and divorce, divorce support, divorce counselling, divorce therapy, advice on separation anxiety, and I am happy to discuss their differences with you.
Please note, for relationship counselling, marriage counselling & marriage guidance I only see individuals who want to work through their own marriage or relationship problems.
I don't see couples for counselling.
Relationship Counselling, Marriage Counselling, Relationship Problems, Marriage Problems, Central London, Camden
Continuing Or Ending The Relationship Or Marriage
Reinvigorating & Enriching The Relationship
When our relationship is foundering or damaged, we can become frustrated, in despair and our hope can leave us. One or both of us may have already given up on the relationship. Our relationship seems doomed & impossible to change. It can be uncomfortably painful experience. The therapy can help us tolerate these feeIings & explore the possibilities of living in a healthy, fulfilling, honest & intimate relationship.
Healing The Relationship Or Marriage
When we feel wounded, so too is the relationship wounded at some level. The therapy may encourage you to step outside of yourself, observing your relationship between you & your partner from a distance. This can enable perspective, insight & relationship nurturing to occur.
Nurturing Or Ending The Relationship
Reconciliation The meaning of the word "reconciliation" is about "coming to terms with". This important process can either happen in the continued relationship or after the separation. An important aspect for some may therefore be about working towards resolution either in the relationship or indeed by ending the relationship. However, any problem in the relationship can mean we convince ourself that it is us, or our relationship, that has failed. We may have lost hope. Yet, some of our problems cannot be resolved through separation. Instead of quitting the relationship, we may want to consider & resolve our own difficulties & create the conditions for it to successfully thrive. A relationship can be seen like a garden that needs tendering to & nurturing.
Separation – Relationship Break-Up, Marriage Break-Up With the best will in the world, relationships cannot always be saved - nor, in some cases, should they be. Separating from our partners usually carries some acrimony, pain, hurt, anger, denial or trauma or even relief. Healing takes time.
How We Separate We can choose to close this passage of our Iife in a mature way. There is the potential to manage the parting in hostile or conciliatory ways. Keeping the door open to dialogue may be helpful. People may want to clarify the consequences of an adversarial or conciliatory parting. Negotiating and settling disputes, e.g. child access, financial, housing, legal & court matters, alongside adapting to different living arrangements, can produce their own anxiety, stresses or sense of loneliness. The therapy can be "a container" when emotions run high.
After The Separation During and after the separation it is usually a confusing time, so it can be a difficult to think clearly. We may become stuck or overwhelmed by what our future holds. We may need support with our powerful emotions and the psychological impact of separation or ending marriage through divorce (and having a label of being divorced). For some it can be a time of loss, grief or letting go, especially when children are involved. The counselling offers an opportunity to selfreflect & re-evaluate our life. Moving on and adapting to new lifestyles can present fresh challenges. Role of Counselling In Separating or Divorcing
Role of Counselling in Relationship Resilience
- Responds to the specific issues you bring & if appropriate …
- Reviews what, for you, will make the relationship work, the difficulties & concerns
- Addresses assumptions, perspectives, expectations, needs, belief systems & behaviour patterns
- Reflects upon communication, any emotional difficulties, commitment issues & the way we act
- Focuses on conflict de-escalation
- Investigates redundant patterns of responding which may no longer work
- Acknowledges the paradox of how to be separate, yet part of a couple
- Examines the different relationship phases
- Assists in managing any disillusionment
- Looks at intimacy avoidance projected onto work, stimulants, possessions, affairs, etc
- Explores the risking of intimacy or finding the courage to love
- Considers the effects of being a parent
- Embraces the role of passion, arousal & sex in the relationship
- Respects the search for a deeper soul connection
- Enquires into the role of forgiveness, trust & acceptance
- Pinpoints where changes & transformation may be helpful
- Acknowledges how for some "making do" may not be enough
- Explores different relational possibilities.
Role of Counselling In Separating or Divorcing
- Responds to the specific issues you bring & if appropriate …
- Facilitates in distinguishing between what's reaction & what's choice
- Helps clarify your feelings & the choices you make
- Helps unfold entrenched views, positions, hostilities, entitlements, expectations & any demonisation
- Assists in working through very specific concerns & unresolved issues: e.g. parenting & child access, grievances, anger diffusion, outrage, aggression, depression, hurt, pain, anxiety, stress, loneliness, grief
- Helps mourn the loss of the relationship
- Considers how to manage any powerful, overwhelming or heightened emotions
- Explores the impact of the separation / divorce (eg. anxiety, selfimage, esteem or confidence)
- Investigates the "roles" we've played & any redundant ways of responding, which may no longer work
- Discusses how communication has been & how different it may need to be in the future (eg. how to be resilient, keeping the door open to dialogue, making reasonable decisions, role of compromise)
- Aides improving clarity of thought & future focus
- Examines how to manage any impending circumstances
- Explores ways to adjust & adapt to a new lifestyle
- Enables moving on emotionally, psychologically & practically at your own pace
- Assists in gaining a deeper understanding of what is happening for you & what your life is all about
- Allows for selfreflection of Iife patterns, re-evaluation & seeking to live to your full potential
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