Please note, for relationship counselling, marriage counselling, marriage guidance, relationship advice & marriage advice I only see individuals who want to work through their own marriage or relationship problems.
I don't see couples for relationship counselling or marriage counselling.
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Pregnancy, Children & Parenting
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Whether Or Not To Have Children
Deciding Whether To Have Children We can't have everything in our relationship, marriage, yet the issue of children can test exactly what this means for us and our relationship. Some of us may have a dilemma in how we responsibly make a decision whether to have a child or children. (Sometimes the so called "unexpected" may occur and we may have had an "unplanned pregnancy", which was a "mistake".) Problems in the relationship, marriage, may surface when one person wants a child and the other doesn't. Talking through the options courageously, honestly and openly, our fears, dreams may be an important part of the process and whatever routes we take, happiness can't be guaranteed. The timing, whether and when to have a child together, our biology, the rush of hormones and strong urges, irrationality, can for some bring its own dilemmas. One person may be keener, more enthusiastic than the other. One of us may only be seeing drawbacks, and be adamant we don't want children, the other may only be seeing advantages and would really like to have children or deeply regret not doing so. Having children can be a compelling reason and purpose for some for being together as a couple and is seen as intrinsic to the relationship, marriage, that through having children can enlarge life together, hold things together as a couple. For many in a loving relationship, deciding not to have children isn't a reason to end the relationship, marriage - that enjoying the freedom of not having children is an option. For other couples, when one person has made the choice not to have children, the other, whose reasons, main purposes of their relationship, marriage, have been compromised, may be left with a real dilemma of whether to continue the relationship, because those deepest desires will be curtailed. There may be other factors (see also Infertility, Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Pregnancy Termination, Abortion - Feelings Of Loss). The underlying feelings, beliefs about whether or not to have children may also be related to our own childhood experiences, the impact of the parenting (including mother, father role models we received), the vows and promises we made to ourself back then, our own commitment issues and indeed midlife concerns. How free we are to choose whether to be a parent now can also be explored in the therapy.
Other Dilemmas - Questioning Our Life, Our Relationship, Marriage We may be seeking clarity around whether we want to be with this person in our life as our partner, a parent. We may also be considering going it along, having a child as a single parent. Honestly talking things through with our partner, allowing their responses to inform us, can help us find clarity. If one person has made the choice not to have children, and the other person would like to have children, feeling compelled to do so, then for some, the meaning of their relationship or marriage itself may be brought into question. (See also Compromising)
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Fertility Counselling, Infertility Counselling
Infertility Counselling, Fertility Counselling There may be numerous physical, medical reasons why one or both of us may be infertile, which need to be investigated medically. Infertility treatment can bring its own physical, psychological stresses. The pressures, expectations, needs from our peers, family (our partner or even ourself) to get pregnant can bring on anxiety, feelings of desperation, failure, depression, obsession, feeling unwomanly, unmanly, inadequate. The counselling for infertility is a space to talk about these reactions and explores how we can relax, so as not to put extra pressure on us.
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Pregnancy, Children & Parenting
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Impact Of Pregnancy, Children In The Relationship Or Marriage Changes in the relationship or marriage and adjusting to new roles when having children and being a mother or father - can be a real challenge and the relationship counselling or marriage therapy can be a place to discuss this. The issues of "space", intimacy, sex (see also Responding To Our Sexual Differences), our expectations and changing needs may also be a concern.
Being A Parent, Mutual Parenting Being a parent has sometimes been described as an impossible task, because we are only human and can't possibly raise our children without making some mistakes along the way. The stress of being a parent, mutually parenting may at times get to us, compounded by the different philosophies of how to bring up children. Unhappy, miserable parents affect children, and the counselling and psychotherapy can talk about this more. Our children mirror our own behaviour, so if we disrespect ourself, give ourself up for our children without taking personal responsibility, they too may take on this role model. Supporting our child's health, safety and wellbeing, balancing freedom and responsibility, being there for them and ourself for the highest good of our children and ourself may be important. A further challenge can be to support our children's free will, freedom to choose, what they want and to be themselves as long as it is not harmful, yet at the same time doesn't mean giving ourself up (see also Making Quality Time Together). Maintaining intimacy and becoming sexual again, or bringing desire, passion, eroticism into the relationship can have fresh challenges as our roles, responsibilities, change and we struggle to adjust and adapt to these new circumstances. What it means for us to be a parent, the challenges, tiredness, etc. can be included in the relationship counselling or marriage counselling. (See also Fatherhood)