UK Council for Psychotherapy

UKCP

Accredited Psychotherapist

British Association for
Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP

Accredited Counsellor

Counselling & Psychotherapy
Central London, Camden, Kings Cross, London NW1
Glen Gibson - Dip. Counselling, MA Psychotherapy, Dip. Psychotherapy
UKCP & mBACP Accredited male Therapist, Counsellor & Psychotherapist

therapy@counselling-london.org.uk 020 7916 1342

Stress, Fear, Anxiety

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Stress, Fear & Anxiety

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Emotional Stress, Fear & Anxiety can be experienced as interchangeable reactions inside of us (compounded when we are hungry, angry, lonely or tired), triggering our fight-flight-freeze response in order to protect us. Yet our stress, fear, anxiety don't always warrant the level of response we experience, as if something else inside is controlling us, that our overwhelming feelings and active imagination takes us over, incapacitating us at times (see also Impending Doom, Sense Of Dread). We may also have allowed our anguish and other our feelings to dominate our thoughts. Observing them, distinguishing between how these feelings positively helps us or contributes to our situations in unhelpful ways, can be explored in the counselling and psychotherapy. We may experience our stress, fear, anxiety as real, yet what we attribute to these feelings may not always be real or rational and we may lose perspective. We may also have absorbed others' stress, fear, anxiety (our parents, partner, friends) as our own and not protected ourself from this impact (see also Our Painbody). We may have learnt to disguise our anxiety, so people can't see it, yet feel it inside or maybe start stress-eating. Some of us can be fuelled by nervous energy, some of it dating back to previous traumas. We may struggle to manage this and allow this to take us over. Sensitive at times, others can get stuck or immobilised in our fear, stress or anxiety. In its grip or overwhelmed, we may be caught in the past or be fretting about the future - trying to predict it, not in the present moment, and so we struggle to get much done (especially if we make our future a scary, fearful place). We may make the small things big. It can be exhausting, yet familiar, as if there is no other way of being, as our stress, fear or rolling anxiety begins to dominate our life too much, maybe snowballing out of control (and of control, it may be that our stress, fear, anxiety is a direct consequence of struggling to accept what is not in our control and just be in the moment). Some may have an anxiety overload leading to panic attacks. The manner in which we respond to stress, fear and anxiety, influences many things (e.g. our appetite, sleep, physical health & vitality, assertiveness, inspiration & creativity). Prolonged stress, fear, anxiety can compound our negative thoughts and takes a toll on our health, stops us enjoying life. We may struggle to be aware of other options, perceptions, attitudes, see a bigger picture or be aware of what is in our control and what isn't, maybe trying to get others to take responsibility for our feelings. What we tell ourselves and our early unconscious beliefs may also contribute to our stress, fear and anxiety. Some of us may for example experience anxiety, yet mistaking this for our primary emotion, which in fact may be fear. Stress can be seen as a milder form of anxiety. Anxiety can be seen as a fear of choice in our hands. We all have our templates for responding to our waves of stress, fear & anxiety, and the anxiety treatment & stress therapy can explore these with you, alongside determining whether our fears are rational, irrational, how we can put things into perspective, face and tackle our stress, fear and anxiety, taking back control of them. Losing hope that we can manage this, we may have given up or turned to unhelpful habits or addictions. In our head we may be overwhelmed, overloaded, overstimulated and we may make mountains out of mole hills - magnifying situations in our mind as waves of thoughts, feelings are experienced. Regulating our stress, fear, anxiety, so it doesn't double, quadruple, etc., having faith, remaining anchored, centred, grounded in spite what's happening inside or around us, understanding that we have a rich palette of other feelings (including our own vulnerability, tenderness), a range of choices, that our choice is in our control (supported by our personal boundaries), can bring stress relief, reduce our anxiety problem and empower us.

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Stress Management, Stress Reduction, Stress Control

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What Is Stress - Stress Definition Emotional stress is a natural human reaction - part of who we are, and many of us thrive on pressure. Psychological stress to varying degrees is present in us all. Most of us can feel a little stressed when we stretch ourselves and under certain circumstances we all feel pressure. Our stress can help us do things - even quicker at times, yet in a long run our stress can be ineffective, as it affects our wellbeing and may also result in physical symptoms, tiredness or burnout. If we have problems sleeping, are tired or exhausted, this too can reduce our stress tolerance. If we are judging ourselves, we may feel more stressed, less energised. Our stress doesn't always work for us, nor give us peace of mind. We may be seeking ways to control stress. Problems begin when we become consumed by stress, and it takes us over, affecting our vitality. We have never been stressed without thinking, therefore it is the nature of our thoughts which shape our stress. It is argued that stress is caused by our thoughts, believes & actions regarding circumstances rather than just these circumstances themselves, that we feel overwhelmed, because we think we are. We may struggle to remain calm, simplify things, unable to see that we have things to do, struggle to prioritise, break down tasks into smaller pieces and get started. Pressurised, we can become distressed, tense in our bodies, as we have numerous physical reactions. Stress originally evolved to respond to immediate physical threats and when we continue to stimulate this response, we become more aroused (see Physical Feelings, Somatic Reactions, Other Reactions). We can become so emotionally aroused that the quality of our thinking is impaired, we become less productive and our relationships, including our libido & healthy sex life, are affected. Our stress problem also affects our behaviour, memory. We can all hit a wobbly patch or feel on edge about certain things. It is not only negative situations, which create stress - relief from achieving something, receiving promotion, moving into a new place, a new relationship, the birth of a child, a celebration, excitement can also be causes. Undergoing unfamiliar, unexpected change, can also be stressful, as can not getting our needs met. Finding ways to reduce emotional stress may now be important for us. Each person has their own reasons for being overwhelmed by stress and the psychotherapy considers your own circumstances in order to reduce stress or manage your stress differently or better. In the stress management or stress therapy it may be important to take some breathing space, pay attention to how we breath, which can take our attention away from our experience of stress. Lifestyle factors influencing our stress levels may include how we unnecessarily expose ourself to what stresses us (including work stress), saying "Yes" when we mean "No", holding negative attitudes, lack of compassion, lack of healthy diet, healthy sex life or playfulness, laughter, sense of humour. Other stress reducing support systems can be offered, so we have some simple tools to control stress.

How To Control Stress - Stress Management We can't eliminate stress from our lives, yet we can manage it differently... For some of us stress can become our way of life and our body is not designed to be in a constant stress state, overthinking, overanalysing, feeling overwhelmed, confused. Everything - others, life (even us) can become a task (see also Being & Doing - Dilemmas We May Hold). Taking pauses, making space, quiet time for us, having perspective, being reflective, noticing our stress, what contributes to it (e.g. thoughts - our expectations, behaviours - technology overuse), learning healthy ways to reduce it, may now be essential. We may also explore whether the stress is necessary. Stress management techniques alone may not be enough for effective stress relief. However, it may be of benefit to manage and overcome our fears & distress, acknowledge our unhelpful thinking patterns, negative thoughts, without overthinking or unnecessarily focusing on detail, our perfectionism, in order to initially reduce our anxiety symptoms. In the stress management counselling we may also look at what causes stress in the first place, our own stress triggers. We may have a sense of powerlessness - giving others control over our thoughts, feelings and choices, losing our own sense of being in control. Our pessimism may hold us back and we may struggle to find positive solutions. Anxiety therapy & stress counselling can help with understanding stress & trauma, balancing pressure with stretching ourselves, stress management, stress relief, unhelpful behaviour & our personal stress responses, time management, support networks & useful tips for reducing stress in traumatic situations. The stress therapy and stress management can also look at ways that help us be flexible in our thinking, relax, let go, lighten up, stop stressing, move forward, be at ease, connect with our values and how to get our emotional needs met. Social stress may also be a concern for some. We may be seeking some help with stress, ways of coping with stress, stress management skills and the stress treatment. Stress counselling can support us with this - using strategies that work best for us.

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Fear

None but a coward dares to boast that he has never known fear. Ferdinand Foch

What Is Fear - Fear Definition Fear is universal, affecting us all, whatever our age, gender, race, culture, religion, wealth, status. Fear has an important purpose. It acts as a reminder, protecting us when we need to. It keeps us from taking unnecessary risks. It can slow us down, so we can stop, think, avoid danger & keep us safe. Our fear is our alarm system, helps save us from threatening situations - it has the function of focusing & energising us. This is what we may be used to doing and have yet to find other responses to our fear, so we don't unnecessarily alarm ourselves. Fear activates our fight, flight, freeze mechanism, so we respond to danger. The more terrified with fear we are, the stronger the fight, flight, freeze reaction. Fear is our natural emotional response to any immediate or future danger (real or imagined) that may threaten us. Trauma for example arouses fear when the threat tends to be of an external nature. Acting in a fear-driven way may also be entirely appropriate - supporting our survival. Our fear can be our driver to do things (and not do things), especially at the last minute (including turning our fear around, so we become creative with it). Fear can nudge us towards courage, be a source of motivation, determination. (Some may utilise our fear as the only way we know to drive us.) We may believe that without our fear driving us, we will do nothing, so we use fear to fuel us. Yet, if we have compassion for ourselves, rather than doing nothing, the quality of our productivity, creativity, interactions usually increases. Our fear can also be seen as a sign that something in us needs attention, and the anxiety counselling & stress therapy can look at this with you.

There is nothing to fear but fear itself Franklin D. Roosevelt
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Fear - What May Be Happening Inside At times we may unhelpfully have allowed our fear system to dominate, control our life, drive our worries, rumination. When fear takes us over, its effects can stop us from living all of who we are, making decisions, taking action, and we may end up procrastinating. Sometimes our fear can override other things, overwhelm us, paralyse us. We can allow the force of our fear to be like a magnet - feeding our fear by attracting it through our thoughts, beliefs & actions. When we have a fear attack, it can render us isolated & lonely, fearing ourself and others. Being in the shadow of our fear can stop us in our tracks, our thoughts can tumble, forever worrying what's the next threat: "What if this... ?", "What if that... ?", and we can become immobilised, disorganised, as our curiosity dilutes. Frightened, we can sometimes allow this shadow to bully us, so we don't fully live, always choosing the predictable. In this dark & scary place it can seem as there is no light. We may get depressed at times. Continuously fearing outcomes, and what might happen, go wrong, can be exhausting. Struggling to have peace of mind, we may have a sense of impending doom. We may exaggerate our fears and be irrational with them, making our irrational fears real in our head, finding a way to believe that these are rational fears. The more we focus on our fear, fixating on things, the more we may consciously or unconsciously make it real. This can stop us acting, achieving things, taking risks. We may end up doing things based on what should be important, struggling to choose, follow, what is important from a less fearful place. Fear begets fear and the quality of fear tends to be defensive, protective, where our heart may be closed, as if this is the flip side of love. Our hope may be elusive, as we struggle to rise above our fear and some of us may turn to unhelpful habits or addictions temporarily soothe us.

A choice, right now, between fear and love. The eyes of fear want you to put bigger locks on your doors,
buy guns, close yourselves off. The eyes of love, instead, see all of us as one.
Bill Hicks
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Origins Of Fear - Where It May Come From In Us We are born with a scared part of us, a fear-based small self (see also Our Painbody). We all experience fear or a sense of lostness at times, some of which may be unexplained and go way back in time (see also Our First Relationship - Early Connections & Bonding Patterns). The fear we experience now may have echoes from our past, and can be explored in the therapy, counselling. Therefore, some of us can be fearful, scared or traumatised about a current situation, which is triggered by events in our past. Often linked to our past, some of us may fear criticism so much, that we lose a lot of confidence, fear we are not good enough. Linked to our old wounds, grieving old trauma may help us release old fears. Our fear may lurk cautiously in the background or be very dominant in our thoughts & actions and we don't have to act on our thoughts. If our self esteem is low, our fear system can get aroused. We can scare ourself as our ball of fear gains momentum. We can withdraw, disconnect not only from others, but from us. Experiencing fear can be responded to as an opportunity to choose to take care of it (see also No Longer Abandoning Us), transform it. Finding our way through our fear and frameworks for understanding the nature of fear, loneliness & withdrawal may be offered.

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Our fear may manifest through our dominant or submissive behaviour, pleasing & fixing things, our anger or our procrastination. Some of us may be so attached to control, being right or winning, that they make this more important than choosing love over fear & suffering. Some of us may respond to our fears as facts or reality & our thoughts can become fear-based because of the stories we tell ourselves, as if we are a rabbit caught in the headlights (see also "Freeze" reaction). Others may fight or take flight. And our unconscious fears may also play a huge role (see also Our Painbody). Stress counselling and anxiety therapy acknowledges not only the issue that the fear is related to, but also its triggers, source & any unhelpful beliefs that continue to support our fears.

Specific Fears Wracked by fear, we can be frightened of the unknown, uncertainty, getting things wrong, criticism, failure, success, or being exposed (which may often be linked to our shame). Vulnerable, we may have a fear of living. We may fear our own company or silences (see Keeping Busy - What May Be Happening Inside). We may fear that others won't like us, becoming dependent on them for validation, approval, affirmation, reassurance, recognition, appreciation, praise, permission, confirmation, attention. Fear of death, dying, growing older, ageing, can be a real concern for us, as can fear of living to our full potential. We may have fears in our relationship and dropping these fears may be important. We may fear conflict, rejection. Some may fear intimacy, fear love, fear commitment or fear rejection, abandonment or engulfment in our relationship, others may fear power, in its uses, abuses in others, yet deny our own power. We may be scared of being seen as if we or others do, there is nothing there - a belief from our wounded self, yet being in touch with essence and soul qualities of love can help us be no longer afraid.

I learnt that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. Nelson Mandela

Avoiding Fear & What May Lay Underneath It When our fear no longer grips us or saps our energy (see also Beliefs From Our Wounded, Fearful Place), we are more refreshed, freer to trust who we are. With the best will in the world we can't always avoid fear (and our fear based thoughts felt in our body), and the more we try to avoid fear, face our fear of feeling, the more it may mull away inside, residing somewhere in our body. When we acknowledge our fear, staying with it, we may also find out what other self judgements and feelings lay behind it. Underneath our ball of fear may live layers of other feelings, e.g. our sadness, anxiety. We may turn our fear-based thoughts to fear-based "truths" without checking whether these thoughts are based on fear or faith. Counselling & psychotherapy can help support us finding our own way through our fear, drop our fears - shrinking & transforming them, differentiating between the facts, truth & imagined fears, so we can handle our pain, open our heart.

We must travel in the direction of our fear. John Berryman

Catastrophising, Awfulising We may believe we can control outcomes yet inside fear disappointment, some of us believe that if we continuously imagine the worst things happening (see also Mind Reading - Jumping To Conclusions, Fortune Telling), we can feel relieved when they don't, yet this means we unnecessarily scare ourselves, which may be linked to our painbody. "Catastrophising" or "awfulising" can be our habit - imagining that if we don't do X, Y will happen (see also Magical Beliefs) and more fear becomes created. (See also Impending Doom, Sense Of Dread)

That which does not kill us makes us stronger. Friedrich Nietzsche
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Counselling For Fear, Psychotherapy For Fear We may be seeking help for our fear and the counselling & psychotherapy can offer support in overcoming fears, putting them in perspective. There may also be a mismatch between what is actually happening and what we tell ourself (we may also take our fears into our relationship, marriage). Witnessing our fear - observing it, as opposed to being our fear may help loosen its hold on us may give us perspective. (We may also notice that many of our fears don't materialise, and if they do, they are often not as bad as we feared.) Noticing our conditioned pattern of escaping from difficulties may help some. It is through our thoughts and body that fear manifests, and getting familiar with how this personally shows up in us can help us towards dismantling fears' hold on us. From our fear, we may draw unhelpful conclusions based on our fears compounded by any additional catastrophising we do (see also Impending Doom, Sense Of Dread). The therapy may explore our thinking patterns, beliefs, what we want to tell ourselves, what transforms our fear. The therapy may include looking at concrete ways of learning how to stop scaring ourself, so the very thing we want or desire can be less scary & open up for us. Where we place our intent can support our courage or our fear so we may want to courageously find our way into our fear & through the other side, which can seem counterintuitive. Diminishing our fear, transforming it, may be important for us. We can't eradicate all fear, be fearless at times, yet we can be bigger than our fear - shrinking it, evoke our courage and choose love over fear in our regular thoughts and actions, so our fear can be dismantled and no longer drives us. The therapy may also explore any unhelpful ways we choose to reinforce our fear by overly focusing on avoiding pain, disapproval, failure, conflict & engulfment. The counselling may also explore ways we can choose to focus on courage, pleasure, security, approval and action - what we need to do in spite of our fear. Being in touch with our curiosity and willingness to learn may support us moving away from our fear. Not always taking things seriously, lightening & loosening up, having fun, finding humour in things may also support us. (See also Relationship Help, Marriage Help - Dropping Any Fears, What Scares Us)

It is only by following your deepest instinct that you can lead a rich life, and if you let your fear of consequence
prevent you from following your deepest instinct, then your life will be safe, expedient & thin.
Katherine Butler Hathaway

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Anxiety

Getting Rid Of Anxiety Uneasy about some things, anxiety is part of being human, letting us know we are uneasy about something. When thinking ahead, anxiety can also help us to consider & think about the consequences. Anxiety can be seen as an alert like an alarm system, a normal reaction to fear when our basic security is threatened. (Some of us may have been on a state of red alert for a very long time.) We may tend to have certain times of the day when we feel more anxious. Sometimes our alarm bells may go off when they don't need to (see also Our Triggers). Reducing the level of alertness, bringing our arousal system down, may be important to control anxiety, so we are not so overwhelmed by it. Taking personal responsibility for things leads to anxiety, a process in us all, and when we can authentically face it, our anxiety has the potential to help us grow & learn, bringing anxiety relief (anxiety management). Symptoms of anxiety can't be entirely eliminated, though anxiety can be reduced. We may be faced with a paradox that if we try to avoid our anxiety, resist it by denying its reality, this can compound our anxiety as it intensifies. Yet as we accept our anxieties, find our way through them, we can become freer of them. All of us have small worries, niggles, get anxious, edgy from time to time and some of us can thrive on pressure, so there is no anxiety cure - it is more about managing our anxiety, so we catch it, gather ourself together before it (and what we sometimes unhelpfully tell ourselves - often linked to planning, organising, rehearsing things in our head) takes us over. We may be anxious for no apparent reason through learnt behaviour. It may be unrealistic to expect a foolproof way to totally control anxiety - that it is eradicated. Stepping over our anxiety, utilising it, can help us succeed, yet for others, the more stressed we are, the less we do. We may be more irritable, compulsive in our actions, or end up avoiding things, pushing, breaking deadlines, doing things the last minute, procrastinating, going to bed later, struggling to sleep. Anxiety treatment & stress counselling can help us understand the nature of anxiety, look what may lay behind this (including our self judgements, our own attachment anxieties, separation anxiety which may affect our relationship anxiety) and offer tools in managing this, including how we are in our being as well as doing with a sense of life direction.

What Is Anxiety - Anxiety Definition We all get anxious and our anxiety could be seen on 3 levels, a basic anxiety (sometimes called generalised anxiety, general anxiety, GAD) - pangs of anxiety for things that any of us are likely to get anxious about. For example it is common to get anxious about everyday events, like being threatened by a stranger, getting lost going somewhere important, starting a new job. Some of our anxiety problems & emotional swings may also be about our daily existence - that we are alive, things are never certain, secure or always predictable, existential anxiety - inevitable in us all, part of our daily challenge, as may worries about not being the person we want to be. Difficulties embracing suffering & love as part of our human condition can also be anxiety provoking. When we struggle to respond appropriately & constructively, in proportion to the inevitability of everyday events, or existential anxiety, our anxiety problems may be more of a neurotic nature or simply about feeling uncomfortable about our vulnerability. We may be seeking help with anxiety, ways of coping with anxiety, anxiety management skills and the anxiety treatment, anxiety counselling can support you with this. The anxiety counselling may also explore any connections between what makes us anxious, what we tell ourselves and our self-judgement, depression, anger and wounded feelings of guilt & shame or our need for approval, affirmation, reassurance, recognition, validation, appreciation, praise, permission, confirmation, attention.

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... Richard Carlson

Neurotic Anxiety Treatment, Anxiety Control We can all let our mind run away with us, displacing or fixating upon our thoughts, ideas, yet lose our self, our ground in the process. When neurotic anxiety persists it arouses our nervous system, resulting in ongoing nervous tension - the background internal pressure we put on us. This type of anxiety can unknowingly also become foreground, and when it does, our anxiety can become relentless, hungry for imaginary hooks to hang itself on as our problem enlarge or multiply. As if it has a life of its own, we can get anxious about feeling anxious, yet sometimes unaware of why we are in the first place. Anxiety can become irrational, disproportionate at times, daunting at other times and we can lose our perspective. Consciousness itself may render us anxious. Our anxiety can kick in first thing in the morning on waking, and be our companion throughout the day as part of our internal dialogue. We can be stuck going round & round the same things, putting ourself under pressure. We may be in a perpetual state of heightened anxiety (which, when out of control, may lead to anxiety attacks, panic attacks - see Panic Attacks, Anxiety Attacks), as if we are continuously putting our self on trial, often in harsh, critical ways, which diminishes our esteem. Some may give their anxiety other names, like nerves (nervous, nervousness, nervous agitation), angst, tension (tense), apprehension, ruminating (ruminate) about our past or future, fretting (fret), the jitters (jittery), being on edge, in turmoil, pressurised or being under pressure, over-analysing things (see also Our Perceptions, How We See Ourself). Others may be seeking instant gratification or tend to love obsessively. When we become over anxious, this can put a strain on our work & relationships. The anxiety therapy, anxiety treatment can explore how we can manage our anxiety, sitting with it, find our way and move through the energy of our anxiety - channelling it constructively, creatively, letting go of what we need to, no longer fighting against things, that we don't need to, so we don't hold on to them and they don't have such a grip upon us and we can take charge, be bigger than our worries, problems, focusing on what really matters, live to our full potential.

Neurotic Anxiety & Anticipation It is natural to think about the future, have some concerns. Yet our worry or underlying unease, fear of failure, sense of lack of control and need to control things by continuously anticipating the future (compounded if we do this in negative ways), as if we can influence all that will happen, and cover all angles, can take our attention away from being in the moment. Alongside worrying about the past, we may stress about the future, compounded by our expectations. We cannot determine how and what the world will be, how others, or even us, will be at certain moments in time, and struggle to respond to this inevitable uncertainty. Anxiety is also a present state emotion about future anticipated events ("What if...?", "What's next...?") and much of our anxiety may be illogical. We can obsessively mull over & over again future outcomes, anticipating discomfort. This can be compounded if we view future activities as onerous or with dread, which can be stomach churning and lead to disappointment. We can expend our energy contemplating consequences of our actions where, we tend to visualise & rehearse scenarios, imagining events as out of our control or unavoidable. We can even worry about future regrets. We may have regular catastrophic fantasies. These current concerns often carry historical triggers, threatening memories of what happened before (some of them may be vague or even unconscious to us). The threat tends to be of an internal nature - what's happening inside us, as things become magnified. We can pick up a thread of something and our thinking can cascade into a continuous stream of thoughts, one leading to another, as we struggle to filter them. We can worry about things so much that our anxiety takes over & our level of concern seems out of proportion, as we become less willing to take risks. We may no longer want to turn our anticipation into anxiety, preferring to convert our anticipation into preparation. Thinking about future events, outcomes, when we need to, we may want to remain optimistic, open to how things turn out in unanticipated ways.

Weight Of Expectation What we expect of ourselves, what we imagine others expect of us, can put undue pressure on us (and often lead to disappointment), causing us to worry, get anxious, and may become a weight upon our shoulders. Living up to what we perceive others expect of us, and our own expectations, can be a burden we no longer wish to carry. These expectations may also affect our relationship or marriage. How our expectations get in the way, and what else we can do with them, can be included in the anxiety therapy or anxiety treatment.

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Worry & Rumination

Rumination Sometimes it can help to reflect on our past, so we can learn from this, yet we may become overwhelmed, overloaded, overstimulated, if we constantly worry and this can affect our sleep. We may spend lots of time ruminating about past experiences or future plans, obsessing over negative emotions - fuelled by our underlying fears, that we can become more anxious, depressed, procrastinate or turn to unhelpful habits or addictions. Much of our rumination, over-thinking, monkey mind may be unhelpful if we constantly worry about things not under our control.

Worrying To Stop Bad Things Happening We may worry about any change. Fearing disappointment, through unhelpful fortune telling, the wounded part of us inside holding a sense of impending doom may believe that if we worry enough, negative things will not happen (see also Magical Beliefs) - that we can come up with answers to control outcomes, yet indulging in our worries causes us stress and may feed our self-doubt (see also Our Painbody). And others may believe if we don't worry about things bad things will happen.

Worrying & Anxiety Symptoms It is natural to worry about certain things and our worry has a healthy dimension to it. It alerts us to potential threats, what can go wrong, and can help us prepare, plan & do something about it. Yet if we continue to remain in a worried or alert state, we will remain anxious and our worries, many of them insignificant (alongside overanalysing things) can eat away at us, become self destructive, can erode our esteem, instill doubt. We may be in turmoil, worrying about having panic attacks. Some people report their anxiety as worry (or being worried), thinking too much, over-analysing things, being very busy in our head, unravelling lot's of pathways, anticipating scenarios (including what might get in the way, go wrong). We may struggle to accept uncertainty, the possibility of unpleasant surprises, that things will happen, everything can't be controlled, known, expected, familiar, predictable, that we can deal with things or that things aren't perfect. We can also worry, be anxious about change or struggle to deal with pressure and paradox. Incessant worrying "what if ..." may not be helpful - it can simply make us more worried. Worried all the time, even about inconsequential things, it is as if we can't stop worrying, which draws upon our vitality. Excessive worrying can frequently make things bigger than they are and may contribute to depression, headaches, sleeplessness. We may even provoke anxiety inside of us. Some of us can worry about how much we worry. Others can worry if they haven't got anything to worry about or worrying what others may think. It can be as if our anxiety has become familiar friend, that if without it, what would we do, as the space opens up for something else? We may wonder who would we be without our anxious self, what's really important, what matters and what do we value? Constantly worrying can stop us relaxing, resting our mind, being stable in our own ground. We may worry what other people think about us, what we've said, done or should have said or done. We may take things very personally if don't get the right responses back from others. Daydreaming, when feeling disconnected we may become more anxious.

Stop Worrying We may want to stop worrying so much. Anxiety counselling & anxiety treatment may explore what gives us peace of mind, where we put our focus & attention, and where else we might want to put it, alongside the subliminal messages we tell ourselves. The counselling and psychotherapy can also explore our train of thoughts, images, that negatively affect us. We may have allowed the size of our worries to become bigger than they need to be, having little correlation to the depth of what vexes us. Putting things in perspective, taking pauses to reflect, may support us. Thinking about the consequences of things may be important, yet also debilitating, as we worry about what we haven't done, should have done, must do. Addressing the worry, (beyond our fears, letting it go - if it serves no purpose) giving it some positive attention, so our worry works for us, may be supportive when it moves us into action with a purpose. Accepting our worries (even setting aside a small portion of "worry-time" for them) without suppressing them may assist us, as may being mindful of what we are experiencing, establishing healthy distractions.

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Impending Doom, Sense Of Dread Over-worrying can lead to a sense of pessimism. Some of us may carry a feeling often felt in the pit of our stomach, as if something bad is going to happen which may also be linked to our painbody. Others may constantly be thinking about the worst outcome, that the ground will swallow us up and when things don't go as badly, we can feel relieved, yet this process can tire us out. Our overwhelming feelings and active imagination can make things real even if they are not, as we struggle to think rationally and impending doom sets in if our feelings now dominate our thoughts. Linked to our fear, we may be familiarly watchful of the next threat, attack - real or imagined, that something is always lurking around the corner (see also Catastrophising, Awfulising). Some people may use this against us and we may have become a people pleaser, fixer to try and accommodate. Holding a sense of dread, some of us may go round, carrying the weight of impending doom on our shoulders, as if we are under imminent threat in some way, that something bad may happen, which can go back years. We may hold a background of fear, disappointment, shame or guilt that rarely leaves us with a sense of fear inside. We may experience panic attacks. We may have a strong perfectionist in us, as if to compensate. Some may experience impending doom, a sense of dread, just as things are going well, when we feel good, as if by becoming self-conscious we become fearful or sabotage things by killing off any moments of contentment, happiness. Even when things are going well (or fearing success), it can be as if our heavy weight remains on our shoulders, as if becoming like a victim, martyr, impinging on our free will. Others may experience a frequent sense of impending doom, feeling of dread as a pattern in their life or when we experience very specific, uncomfortable feelings triggered by change, certain events, times of the week, e.g. on Sunday evenings. We may also have certain anxieties about our mortality, anxieties in our relationship (see also Relationship Style, Attachment Patterns). The counselling and psychotherapy can explore these feeling further and what gives us peace of mind.

Mistrust From past experience we may have good reasons not to trust (see also Our Painbody), which can be explored in the counselling. When we are anxious we may be overly focused on ourself tending to mistrust not only us, but others, suspecting them more.

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Pressurising Ourselves

Putting Ourselves Under Unnecessary Pressure A little pressure can be a good thing - motivating us, stretching ourselves. We can thrive on pressure and it can help us to complete tasks. Yet too much pressure can make us anxious, feel unsafe. We all have our own ways of pressurising ourself - telling ourself we are not doing enough, an inexhaustible "to do" list getting what we need, finding love, needing to be more this, that or the other. We can compound the pressure we put ourselves under by judging ourselves, feeling inadequate, having lots of "shoulds", expectations. We may struggle to take a deep breath, pause. While these dominate our life we may be caught in a strong resistance to change, because we have allowed the pressures we put upon ourselves to be greater that accepting ourselves as we are, so the part of us that wants to change or heal can be dominated by this other pressurising part. Tense inside and used to background anxiety we can put ourselves under unnecessary pressure, which can put a lot of stress on our body, contribute towards illness. Taking the pressure off what we should be doing, feeling, thinking, letting go of what we need to, so we can just be, maybe offering small acts of kindness, can give us peace of mind and deep sense of relief. Reducing any unnecessary pressure we put ourselves under and seeing what happens may be our challenge. (See also Replacing What We've Let Go Of)

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Preoccupied With Certain Worries - How Things Can Build Up Inside Excessive worrying can waste our resources and the counselling & psychotherapy can explore other ways, possibilities of responding to worry. Life can be pressurised at times and we don't necessarily have to become pressurised by having our own supportive handle on pressures. Coping & responding to the pressures of modern living can be a challenge. Some of us can get into a state of anxiety from the moment we get up, till we go to bed, and even then it may be present. When we care about things we may automatically start to worry, yet to care without necessarily worrying may support us. Our anxiety can be so intense at times, as if it is going around in a loop and we can't control it. We can be on edge. "I've got to do this, that" as if there is always something racing in our head. Our mind can become restless. We may be continuously thinking so much about the things we've done, have yet to do, things that should have been done, what others did, are doing or should be doing. Our anxiety can become debilitating, as our energy drains, stopping us doing things, affecting our personal power. Stuck in our heads, thinking a lot about things may become too difficult or painful. We can also get anxious when we don't know where a danger is coming from, and this can strengthen, if we can't diffuse it. It can arise at any moment, doesn't need an event to cause it. Many of us become anxious when we can't get our needs met. Little things can build up, so if we don't get a quick response from someone, we get anxious or may feel abandoned. Inside we may be lonely. Unless we are able to calm ourself & feeI at ease, some of us can get so tense or excited, that it can be hard to think properly, and we can lose perspective. Overanxious, persistently nervous, aroused, tense we can become impotent. Without our personal boundaries, e.g. saying "No, I'm not going to give this thought any more time", we can allow the anxiety to dominate us, as our preoccupation becomes our disposition. Some of us can become fixated, locked into, preoccupied by certain worries, ordeals. We can get something in our head, which has become the "be all & end all", as if we are trapped in this cycle. The more we try to break this cycle, the more it dominates. We can whip ourselves up into a frenzy. Our preoccupations and sources of anxiety may rise up and consume our mind. When we get over-anxious we not only put us under psychological & emotional pressure, but also physical pressure. Taking control of our worries before they control us, utilising our personal will, boundaries, responding differently, so we put us under less pressure, having a different perspective about our worries can be picked up in the stress counselling or anxiety therapy.

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Anxiety & Keeping Busy With Distractions

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Keeping Busy - Culture Of Distraction The world is full off limitless distractions and inside of us there may be always something compelling going on in the background. Some of us may be used to continuously running from one thing from another, relentlessly giving ourselves tasks, immersed in (often unnecessary) activities that never seem to end, distracting ourselves from uncomfortable feelings, fleeing from them, maybe numbing them. As if we are "addicted to business" or "addicted to activities", when we are on our own we may struggle to be comfortable without a lot of external stimulus. We may find silence difficult. Ill at ease, uncomfortable, bored, restless, desperate or empty inside, we may have a list of so many things to do or constantly need to fill things up to pass the time, as if we need to distract ourself from our self. Besides, our "to do" list can keep us permanently distracted from ourselves. "What's next?" may be our continuous mantra. Finding it hard to switch off, hyper-aroused, we may be focusing on needing to react to a lot of external stimulus. We may also struggle to switch off our electronic devices, spending excessive time online, social networking or blogging (see also Communication Addiction - Email, Text, Telephone & Mobile Addiction & Addicted To Games - Computer Games Addiction, Online Games Addiction, Video Game Addiction & Gaming Addiction Help). Our work may temporarily keep our anxiety at bay. Yet it doesn't address our real problem. Noticing our internal dialogue, false beliefs, fear based thoughts, which create our anxiety in the first place, may support us. Replacing them with our own truth and our intrinsic sense of worth, calling upon our internal & external resources to calm our anxious self, may also be of help. The stress management & anxiety therapy can be space to consider our place in the world, how much we are in control in how & what we think, so we are more in charge, calm, not a slave to distracting our mind, so we can focus more, less caught in our incessant thoughts or all-or-nothing thinking. Creating space & quiet time, taking pauses, can support our self-awareness, ability to observe & reflect. And in this space we can explore what else we would want to do with our energy & time if getting anxious, when we're so in the grips of this. This may entail finding our own way through the forest of our anxiety, so we are less a victim to our anxiety by using our willpower to transform the negative aspects of our anxiety towards higher pursuits. This for some can open our creativity or sense of spiritual serenity in others.

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Keeping Busy - Difficulties Slowing Down & Relaxing When we get anxious, our mind whirrs & our attention span reduces. As our thoughts swirl around at high speed, we can become overwhelmed, yet feel empty inside. Our "fast forward" button may be on, as we struggle to locate &press; the "pause" button. Feeding our anxiety can make matters worse, as our mind races ahead. When anxious, we may also become impatient, with a frantic edge, lose our focus or find it hard to switch off from worrying about things. Some of us may tirelessly want to be one step ahead, as if we wind ourself up, becoming uptight, like a coiled spring, getting into a loop, feeding our own agitation, and becoming more tense. There can always be something racing in our head. Sustaining any prolonged attention may be challenging. As a distraction, we may keep busy (overdoing things, believing we have to do it all ourselves), multitasking, juggling tasks, as our attention begins to wander. Having an active imagination, it can be hard to be still. Some of us may talk fast, scatter our words, speak or think a lot, which may also be a habit we have got into. Our mind racing, we may be so busy thinking what to say or do next that we find it hard to be present and calmly be in the moment. "How am I going to fill (or kill) my time?" may be a constant worry. We may believe we can only thrive in a hive of activity or with lots of excitement, what some people call an adrenaline junkie - "addicted to activities", "addicted to business". Impatient, overloaded, rushing & running, flitting from one task to another, it can be as if we are running on empty, as on a treadmill, like a hamster continuously going round the wheel, always trying to do something. So busy "doing", we may have become out of touch with our "being". We may also keep busy by always trying to care for others, please others or be in our "fix it" mode, which can compound our stress. We may be over-committing ourselves and become overburdened and sometimes we can collapse with exhaustion. Thoughtfully choosing whether to take on extra tasks, adjusting our current responsibilities, saying "No" to some of these and asking for help when we need it, may support us. Building & maintaining supportive habits may help us. Finding it hard to reassure ourself, slow down, giving ourselves healthy boundaries, we may believe that if we drop our anxiety and & relax, we are lazy or we will lose our edge. Putting trust in us, trusting our own space & ground, to relax again, may be important to us.

Keeping Busy - What May Be Happening Inside Dwelling on things, our thoughts can go round & round, and remaining stuck in our head, our minds can run away with things. Our minds are not only ignition, but also a brake, and some of us may want to learn to put the breaks on, so we don't get ahead of ourself - stuck in our heads, maybe at the cost of not being fully present, in the moment. The stress therapy or anxiety counselling may also explore how putting the breaks on may help us to manage our stream of consciousness. We may want something - anything, so it means we are not alone in any moment. On the surface we may have boundless optimism. We may end up trying to show that everything is OK, keeping things inside our head, and people around us may become frustrated. Continuously on the go, rarely stopping, we may put pressure on not only us, but also others. We may try to keep busy in order to avoid resolving certain difficulties, and the more we are in touch with any deeper uncomfortable stirrings, the busier we may become, making light of problems, pretending they are not happening. Ironically, keeping busy on the one hand, we may procrastinate on the other, not giving quality time to concentrate on things that really matter. We may need to know everything and be in control, yet a part of us may feel out of control. We may try to be a perfectionist or have a harsh taskmaster, which drives us. If we fail, we may deflate. We may be living in a way that everything is only about the immediacy of now, that our feelings are so precious, acting on any impulse we have, struggling to reflect, have perspective (see also Present, Past & Future). It can be as if we are dealing with things, and not really living, as if trying to escape from ourselves. Keeping busy for some may be a way of our mind attaching itself to anything, as a way to avoid things, maybe our vulnerability, tenderness, risking letting go of something or finding out more about ourselves. Alone or lonely inside, we may be experiencing a sense of emptiness, a gap or absence in us - trying to fill it by keeping busy, seeking more and more stimulation. We may also believe that if we take a pause, it is wasting our time - that we should be doing things. We may try to avoid silence (maybe fearing what lurks in our unconscious - as if becoming aware of our self scares us), slow down, relax, be in our own company or create a space, listening to our inner voice and see what happens, because it makes us edgy, as we try to avoid our anxiety problem. Denying any feeling of anxiety, often accompanied by negative thoughts, we may believe: "I have to keep busy doing something (and can't imagine not doing anything), if I stop, I will get anxious or feel guilty, so why would I". For some when our mind becomes still, we may become fearful with what could be described as existential loneliness. Our challenge may also be to let go of all that drains us in order to protect our personal power.

Keeping Busy - Making Time To Stop, Reflect Being at ease, safe enough inside, relaxing without necessarily doing anything, enjoying our own company, may be a challenge for some. Simply responding to & enjoying our own company, without always being busy, taking breaks, may be important for us, especially if we believe that if we stop to think, we will get panicky, have panic attacks. Some of us may work very hard - too hard, as a distraction from other things. Often at the cost of our relationship, as a way of keeping busy, in demand, we may try to focus on getting things done or become indispensable, either at work (thriving on pressures, speed & deadlines) or in our relationship. Forever doing things, we may superficially feel safe from our feelings. Some of us may long for space, yet find this hard to allow into our busy lives, compounded by turning to technology as a reaction to distract us from what else really matters to us. Forever trying to be switched on (see also Communication Addiction - Email, Text, Telephone & Mobile Addiction), anticipate things, we may be in a double bind - wanting to relax & let go, yet believing if we stop & do nothing, we will get anxious or come up against difficult, unwanted feelings. When not focused on something, it can give us time to think, reflect, which we may avoid, needing to move on to something new (maybe taking the long way home for a change), avoiding the opportunity to be calm or restful, yet desiring this. Continuously preoccupied or craving stimulation, we may struggle to tolerate the space between doing things. Constantly chasing things around, we may have become out of touch with what else enriches us or our inner direction. Discarding temporary diversions, spending time on what really matters, may be important. We may have forgotten to appreciate the things in our life, e.g. our resources, people around us. Being relaxed with who we are, finding the courage to be, sitting with our emotions, slowing down, stilling our mind, maybe taking time out to observe, reflect, daydream, learning what we need to learn, may be important to us and the anxiety counselling or stress therapy can support you in this. We can also use this time to reflect upon the importance of what we are doing, its worthwhileness, whether it is productive, fulfils us, or is simply time consuming. Prioritising & clarifying our goals each day with our structure & strategy so we focus on our purpose may also be important. Some of us may even be surprised when we actually are relaxed and in the moment, as if we are not supposed to be. Learning to override any sense of alienation or panic may be our challenge. Finding it hard to just stop, be in touch with a few quiet moments of stillness & reflection, giving our mind space, being in our own "inner sanctuary", can initially be threatening for some, as if we are afraid of finding out more about ourself (see also Releasing Ourselves & Letting Go). Preferring our detours, we may struggle to be intimate, enjoy our own company, be in the moment, control anxiety, reflect in our own space & ground, have peace of mind, without having to keep busy or do something, create a drama, obsessively focused on the destination. Overwhelmed by feelings or thoughts, we may be so busy "doing", that we overlook "being", denying our Self in the process, losing our direction, focus, attention, concentration and what this means for us can be included in the stress counselling or stress therapy.

Doing Less Mired by distraction, some of us may feel guilty about doing nothing, that we must always have plans, appointments, things to do (see also Being & Doing - Dilemmas We May Hold), believing we are not being productive, yet ultimately we may be seeking peace of mind. We may find it hard to give ourselves "me time", to forget our worries, obligations and just be in the moment or reflect. It can be easy to take on too much, yet hard to say "No", which can build up our anxiety.

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Supportive, Unsupportive Distractions

Distracting Habits Stress counselling or anxiety therapy can also investigate how distractions affect us. Distraction techniques and habits can be useful and helpful when we need them, whether it's talking to a friend, reading a book, watching uplifting film, listening to certain music. Some habits & thoughts we may enjoy doing, having, that enhance our life - our healthy distractions (see also Being & Doing - Dilemmas We May Hold), and we can give them importance & priority in our life, yet other distractions be detrimental to us, restricting us (see also Unwanted Habits & Addictions). For some of us, it can be as if our brain gets stuck into a regular, automatic routine, as if we only have one road map, that it is hard to change our obsessive thoughts or behaviour, which may have become habit forming or compulsive. Opening up new avenues, changing the routines we take that unhelpfully distract us, can be like opening up new pathways to our brain, as we learn to manage any anxiety. Doing the same things over & over again as if on automatic, we may struggle to switch over to manual and taking charge of our range of gears, discover new areas of life by doing new things, re-focusing our attention on constructive, enjoyable activities, developing new habits, which are supportive.

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Panic Attacks, Anxiety Attacks

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Anxiety Overload, Overwhelment, Leading To Panic Attacks Or Anxiety Attacks Struggling to control anxiety may lead to heightened arousal, anxiety attacks, which stop us achieving things. (When we become hyper-aroused we tend to have certain triggers or stimulus for our panic attacks, like the prospect of change, enclosed environments, formal events, having to be visible, speaking publicly. We may choke under pressure and seek performance anxiety counselling. Some of them are common to many, and we may have our own specific ones.) Immobilised, it can be as if we or others are in a bubble. Some of us have specific phobias, habits, addictions or automatic responses (see also Role Of The Unconscious) when we are anxious, like comfort eating, pulling or plucking our hair (trichotillomania). When our turmoil, anxiety becomes prolonged, we can be susceptible to powerful, physical reactions, illnesses (see Physical Feelings, Somatic Reactions, Other Reactions). The anxiety attacks, panic attacks we experience could be seen as letting us know that we may have abandoned ourself. We are overwhelmed, overloaded and hyper-aroused. Anxiety treatment can be assisted by having some tools for lowering our anxiety levels. Anxiety attacks, panic attacks are closely linked to how we think (which can be compounded if we have a strong, internal critic). Changing our patterns of response (what happens in our bodies, thoughts & emotions), stilling the mind, thoughts, self-calming or soothing strategies can assist, as we become bigger than the anxiety & learn to manage it. The anxiety counselling can help us find ways of tolerating our tension & anxiety, regulating our feelings, taking care of our mind, feelings & body - anxiety management. This may entail giving to yourself the attention, approval & acceptance you need to feel worthy - so you look after yourself in the fullest sense.

That's the strange thing about panic - when we lean into it, it loosens its grip on us. Daniel Siegel

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Physical Feelings, Somatic Reactions, Other Reactions

Stress Symptoms, Anxiety Symptoms - Survival Mechanism What we think & feel affects our body and painbody, therefore the stress therapy and anxiety counselling may also encourage you to take into consideration what is happening physically in your body, much of which may be unconscious (see also Our Painbody). We can be in constant dialogue inside of us, a vicious & familiar circle of worry or negative thoughts, and we get anxious, which in turn produces "stress" hormones of adrenaline & cortisol (we may for example experience a sort of anxiety nausea), as we embody our anxiety, which also affects our sex drive. Insecure at times, we become tense & aroused in our body, including our arms & legs, ready for fight, flight. Our "fight-flight-freeze" mechanism is our survival mechanism, when we are under threat, that when aroused, carrying a biological response and the body's natural way of instinctively responding (see also Relationship Style, Attachment Patterns). Triggering our "fight-flight-freeze" mechanism, ancient in us all, connected to our evolutionary past (and indeed all animals - in what has been called our reptilian brain). Our responses at times may be primitive. Anxiety is a normal reaction to fear (and usually other primary emotions), which is fundamental to our survival. However most modern stressful situations don't produce a danger, requiring us to fight, run away or become frozen, yet unused chemicals in our body may keep circulating automatically (our ancestors would have frequently been exposed to many more threats and this template can live on now). When under threat our thinking becomes one-dimensional and we may also say or do things we wouldn't ordinarily say or do. In many stressful, fearful situations, our bodies may be over-reacting in a state of emergency, as if our faulty alarm bells are misfiring, and it can be challenging to reset these by being calm, managing our own anxiety, regain our self-control.

Stress Symptoms, Anxiety Symptoms - Affecting All Aspects Of Us Our body, mind & emotions are intrinsically linked and we may want to feel more connected with these, grounded in our body. Anxiety is not a physical disease, although it affects our body, breathing & physical health, our thinking & concentration, behaviour cycles, our sensitivities, our sexual, emotional, mental & spiritual wellbeing, alongside our socialising, work, relationships, etc. When we are in touch with our fear, or are fear driven, we become anxious, experiencing somatic reactions, which can sap our energy. Hyper-aroused, agitated or impatient, we can become like a tightly coiled spring, panicky or startled and some of us can experience panic attacks (also known as anxiety attacks), which can be frightening (see also Panic Attacks, Anxiety Attacks). Creating space, so the anxiety is not so close to us, so we are not defended when we don't need to be, calming ourselves, freeing up our energy for better things, no longer abandoning ourselves, can support us. Trusting & sitting with this space, in touch with our breathing, focusing our attention away from our emotional stress, being able to reflect may be important for us (see also Managing Anxiety below). The stress counselling & anxiety therapy may therefore pay attention to how you breathe, exercise - using our excess adrenaline, other ways you can relax yourself and how you feel, respect, sense what's happening in your body, and interconnectedness between your body, feelings, mind. We may also need to pay attention to our lifestyle, diet. The counselling for stress related illness can also explore how our stress, fear, anxiety may manifest in our body, our physiology with associated physical reactions:

  • Heartbeat - increased
  • Breathing - restricted, shallow breathing, tightness in the chest
  • Tension - e.g. in our head & headaches, neck, muscles, tightness or knots in the pit of our stomach, teeth clenching, teeth grinding, increased pain (see also Pressurising Ourselves)
  • Excessive thirst
  • Digestion - poor digestion, stomach-aches or nausea (e.g. upset stomach, stomach churning, stomach in knots, worried sick)
  • Passing wind, loose bowel movements, frequent urination
  • Perspiration increases
  • Skin - feelings close to our skin, itching, excessive sweating, maybe a tingling sensation (as if an electric current passes through us), coming out in skin rashes
  • Sleeping problems
  • Sapping of energy, fatigue, muscle pain, physical restlessness
  • Physical uneasiness - pins & needles - shaking, trembling, tremors
  • Light-headedness - dizziness, numbness, blanking out, spinning out of things
  • Painful or no periods, lack of response to sexual stimulation
  • Our immune system changes

Cognitive reactions

  • Preoccupation
  • Obsessiveness about one topic
  • Decreased concentration, easily distracted
  • Difficulty in making decisions
  • Loss of fun, pleasure
  • Loss of creativity

Emotional Reactions

  • Racing thoughts
  • Thinking more obsessively
  • Irritability, impatience
  • Increased worry, rumination, anxiety, sense of impending doom
  • Heightened emotions, e.g. distress, fear, anger
  • Feeling on edge
  • Low moods, depression
  • Boredom or withdrawal

Our Behaviour

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Managing Anxiety

Managing Our Anxiety, Reducing Our Anxiety An anxiety cure, foolproof way of anxiety control may be too much to ask for as it is impossible to entirely overcome anxiety, but the anxiety therapy & anxiety management offers ways to manage our anxiety by exploring how we can:

  • Become less affected by our internal dialogue
  • Stop feeding our anxiety
  • Be patient
  • Not get so caught into anxiety loops
  • Keep our anxiety in check, at a distance
  • Put our anxieties into perspective, being curious about its message, what it might mean
  • Exploring ways we no longer abandon ourselves
  • Have compassion for us & others
  • Reduce our anxiety, including relaxation techniques which personally work for us
  • Find a safe place inside to rest our restlessness
  • Utilise healthy distractions

Patience, Impatience We all get impatient at times, when our expectations aren't met or we fear failure. Some of us may become easily impatient, restless, frustrated if we have to wait for anything. We may also struggle with not knowing things or fear abandonment. Agitated when we can't get something done, we may run away with ourself, yet lose our self, not being in the moment in the process. Dropping our pushing & rushing, our patience can support us to achieve things, give us time to chip away at the things that matter to us towards making them happen. Catching our impatience, making space, sitting with things, calming ourself without judging our self and finding beneficial, alternative ways to respond to our impatience may benefit us. Reflecting, observing on what else may be happening inside energetically, what else might be called for, what really matters, acceptance of our helplessness over a situation or person, how else we can possibly respond may help us. Letting go of what we need to let go of, learning to be patient, content, at ease, make space, not always being in a hurry, understanding that some things take time when they are ready (e.g. they have a reason, season) and being satisfied with ourselves, our intrinsic worth, may also support us. Our openhearted patience can help regulate any feelings of failure if things go wrong, help keep our head, not necessarily to push for immediate results, when to wait and when to act, know what we need to learn.

Stress Counselling & Anxiety Therapy can help initially by exploring ways for you to bring your arousal levels down, peace of mind and be more present in the moment. Some may value the experience of meditation, switching from anxiety to gratitude, joy, others - being in touch with their playfulness, laughter, sense of humour. How we respond and manage our anxiety is unique to us. We may be seeking anxiety help, anxiety relief, stress help, stress relief in different ways. Coping with stress, coping with anxiety may be important for some (stress treatment, anxiety treatment - whatever these mean for you). We may just want to deal with stress or deal with anxiety a little better (stress management, anxiety management). What lies behind our stress, fear or anxiety may also hide other conditions (e.g. dyslexia), feelings, some of them unconscious, difficult to access maybe our rage, anger, which can also be explored in stress counselling & anxiety therapy (see also Primary Feelings & Secondary Feelings). The therapy may also explore how being anxious may stop us doing things, acting in the world, and how else we can respond, find peace, calmness, yet aliveness, take care of ourselves.

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Social Anxiety Or Social Phobia

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Being With Others, Social Anxiety & What Might Be Happening Inside Some of us have a fear of interacting with others in certain social situations, rendering us extremely anxious and this can turn to panic (see also Panic Attacks, Anxiety Attacks), especially with authority figures. Our fear is usually about being rejected or judged by others. Social anxiety, social phobia is more than shyness, it is when we persistently carry an overwhelming fear of social situations (maybe talking on the phone, attending a meeting, speaking in public, talking to new clients, going to social events). People may misunderstand us, labelling us as aloof, unfriendly, maybe lazy. We may obsessively worry and all this can be exhausting. Feeling like an outsider, different, there can be a tendency to isolate ourselves, rather than risk what we fear. In the company of new people we may feel lost, as if we are driving with the handbrake on, don't know how to let go, maybe embarrassed or frozen on the spot. In social situations we may shut down, internalise our feelings. We may feel socially awkward, hesitant, uncomfortable or struggle to relax. We may go quiet, silent, struggling to assert ourselves, say what we want. Social stress or general inhibition may be a concern for some if we fear being judged by others, especially if compounded by any negative, judgemental, critical messages we tell ourself. Familiar beliefs tend to be speculations, like what if:

  • People see how nervous I am
  • I may be ignored, disliked
  • I make a fool of myself or say something stupid
  • People think I'm weird or inferior
  • No one wants to speak to me
  • What if I say something stupid
  • I won't be interesting
  • I don't look right
  • I am not competent
  • They criticise, judge or reject me
  • I become humiliated, ashamed
  • They know I'm embarrassed or see me blush

Challenges Some of us may tend towards introvertness rather than extrovertness. We may want to be more socially confident, freer to say hello and interact with others, seeing where this takes us. Finding our voice (and singing) may be problematic. A challenge for some may be to transform avoidance of others to risking sharing with others our interest, attention, care or happiness, addressing the balance between giving & receiving feedback, getting what we want from others & what we want to give. Extending our welcome to others (without wanting them to make us feel safe), creating our own sense of safety may be important. Relaxing into things, enjoying banter (maybe even with some lightheartedness, playfulness, carefreeness, laughter, fun, pleasure and our sense of humour), loosening up, not being too careful about what we say (without second guessing what others think) may help some of us. Anxiety treatment & anxiety therapy therefore also takes into consideration how we are socially and what unhelpful beliefs, worries we hold on to.

Increasing Our Social Anxiety Or Social Phobia We may struggle socially at times with simply how to be, where to place ourselves (see also Re-Connecting To Who We Are, Being Grounded & Secure In Our Body). Worrying about the consequences of saying something "wrong", being over-dependent on what others think, increases our social phobia or social anxiety. We usually abandon ourself by giving others power over us, seeking their approval, acceptance, attention & sense of safety as if we can only get these from others. When we get socially anxious (maybe believing people are intensely looking at us, judging us, where often it may be us judging ourselves) we can put pressure on ourselves to do (and be seen to be doing) everything right, so that we are liked & accepted, and don't feel worthless. This pressure makes us anxious and unsafe, maybe nauseous. Therefore our life, and sense of self, may become determined by others liking or rejecting us - so if we are liked we are OK, but if we are not, we label ourselves as worthless. Overthinking, some of us can do our utmost to control how others think about us, trying to do everything right. This cycle causes more social anxiety or phobia.

Counselling For Social Anxiety If there are concerns about social anxiety, social intuition, emotional self-awareness, the stress therapy or anxiety counselling can explore these, alongside our capacity to stand on our own two feet & connect with others, having empathy & rapport. (Men & women tend to have different communication styles.) Stress counselling & anxiety therapy explores how being comfortable & connected with our self (not only our fears, anxieties, over-sensitivities), no longer abandoning ourselves can support how we are with others, so we can live our lives to our full potential (see also Relating With Others, Friendships - Building & Strengthening Relationships). When we maintain social anxiety it erodes our self-esteem, resilience and the therapy explores how we can best thrive in the company of others, express ourselves more fully. The therapy may therefore look at our own internal dialogue, how we procrastinate on saying things, the ways we communicate, what is our intention and initial contact style when we meet other people. We may want to explore what happens when we step out of our comfort zone - allowing ourselves to interact with others until we become more comfortable doing things, which over time reduces our anxiety. Do we greet & welcome people or wait for others to do it for us. Is our intent to give or receive? The counselling may then look at ways we remain stuck in unhelpful cycles & other possible alternatives, how we can define our own worth & selflove, instead of making others responsible for our own sense of worth. Social phobia or social anxiety management counselling can also discuss ways in which we no longer abandon ourselves accept and take responsibility for our own feelings, inner loneliness, instead of making others responsible - how we feel OK, become selfempowered (see also An Outsider, Invisible At Times With Others). These "others" may tend to be figures of authority or those who we (sometimes desperately) want to accept us. Anxiety management therapy therefore supports us in taking our own authority.

Counselling Questions About Stress Management, Anxiety Therapy, Panic Attacks You may have certain questions about overcoming stress, overcoming fear, overcoming anxiety, overcoming social anxiety, e.g.:

  • What is stress? What is fear? What is anxiety? What is a panic attack or anxiety attack?
  • I am having a panic attack - what should I do?
  • What are the anxiety symptoms, stress symptoms?
  • What are signs of stress & what brings about stress relief?
  • Is stress management counselling effective?
  • How to overcome stress, how to overcome fear, how to overcome anxiety?
  • Is overcoming stress, overcoming fear, overcoming anxiety possible?
  • How to overcome social anxiety and is overcoming social anxiety possible?
  • What is a treatment for anxiety and how can I find effective anxiety help?
  • Is overcoming social anxiety possible?
  • How can I cope with stress, reduce stress?
  • What are the panic attacks symptoms?
  • Is stress treatment, stress control effective?
  • How to control stress?
  • What are the ways to reduce stress?
  • What is fear and how can I control my fear?
  • How do I stop worrying?
  • Is overcoming fear possible?

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