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Grief & Bereavement Counselling
Grief Counselling Our loss, grief can have many aspects. It can seem as if something inside of us may have died. We may experience grief about a person, someone close to us we are attached to, or may be grieving a stage or aspect of life, trauma, our pain, wounds, years of struggle, losses, our past (see also Grieving, Mourning Our Losses). We may also experience existential grief or a sense of meaninglessness, pointlessness.
Grief is the price we pay for love.Queen Elizabeth II
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Unresolved Mourning Someone close to us may have died a long time ago, and we may have never found the time to mourn them, that they are no longer present, and this may affect our life now. We may have stored things up inside, which were too painful for us at the time. Recognising the loss & absence we may not have shared our feelings. Other previous losses may have also been triggered.
Bereavement Counselling Bereavement is a natural process and it can be one of the most painful experiences we have. Side effects can include loss of appetite, sleep problems, panic attacks. Each of us has a different way of grieving - sharing our grief & coping with it in our own good time. Someone may have died recently or some while back, and we may have delayed grief. Grief can impact upon us right to our core, washing right over us, through us. Giving ourselves time, allowing space for this may be important. How we experience this is unique to us. Memories, stories, deep & sometimes conflicting emotions & regrets, ripple forward & backward in time, can get stirred up since our loss. Things that were said, unsaid can stir up all sorts of reactions. The impact of the legacy left behind may affect us. We may need someone simply to listen, or to support us through our grief, offering a place to reflect, feel & process what is going on for us. Words alone may not be enough. We may be very alone, empty, lonely, confused, anxious or fearful, even angry. It can be difficult to think straight, our dreams may have a different nature. We may have unexpected feelings or thoughts we are not "supposed" to have, some of them very contradictory. We may have a range of mixed feelings, surprising ones or feelings we aren't "supposed" to have (these may include finding it hard to forgive them, that they shouldn't have died - even holding it against them, or a part of us may be pleased about their death). Others may even wish they could join them - wherever they have gone to. Yet accepting our feelings, all of them, releasing our emotions in constructive ways if, when we are ready or want to, may be relevant for us. Grief counselling can be a space to talk about things at our own pace, if we want to. We may also want to turn to bereavement counselling for support & deeper reflection, which may or may not be of a religious or spiritual nature.
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Infertility, Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Pregnancy Termination, Abortion - Feelings Of Loss Not having children, unable to have children (involuntary childlessness), losing a child during or after pregnancy, can bring up many feelings including loss, grief - much of which is invisible to others. When we or our partner are infertile, we may also need to mourn our deep feelings. We may have experienced a pregnancy termination (through our own choice or through pressure from others). Some may have had a stillbirth and the trauma lives on as we mourn the loss of who we were carrying. We may hold grief for someone who was unborn, for a longed for child. Our beliefs, thoughts, emotions & hopes may be very different before & after our experience of loss. A mother's reaction & role may be very different to that of the father. One or both of us may lose our sense of purpose. Sexual reconnection may also be important for some couples. Decisions & choices made may induce shock, guilt, shame, self-blame, envy of others. "What if?" may be a familiar preoccupation. Secrecy or fear of what others may say may prevent us grieving. We may be holding onto a sense of humiliation. There may have been no funeral or acknowledgement of the loss by others. (See also Fertility Counselling, Infertility Counselling)
Pet Grief, Pet Bereavement Some of us may have become so attached to our pet that the grief we feel can be as if a close relative or friend have died. We and the animal we loved may have had such a strong bond and we can feel so bereft.
Melancholia Melancholia may be an old-fashioned term, yet it may describe much of what we are experiencing, containing our unconscious elements - strong feelings we have, yet not conscious of them. We know who we have lost, yet also something in us we may have also lost, as if we are in a state o melancholia. This may alter the image we have of ourself, sense of worth, as if our very being is out of sorts, or that somehow we are in the wrong. Empty inside, we may end up blaming, raging against ourself. Self-hatred may set in. It can be as if a part of us is out in the world and another part lives in solitude. Life can be a drag, and it can be as if we are not fully awake, that we have attached a part of ourself to the person who has died, carrying on our suffering, staying loyal to what linked us to them and the legacies they left behind.
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