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Counselling & Psychotherapy
Central London, Camden, Kings Cross, London NW1
Glen Gibson - Dip. Counselling, MA Psychotherapy, Dip. Psychotherapy
UKCP & mBACP Accredited Male Therapist, Counsellor & Psychotherapist 020 7916 1342

London Therapy For Men - Mens Issues & Mens Problems

Find a counsellor - Counselling near me. What is male menopause? What are male menopause symptoms? What are the most common signs of male menopause? How to cope with male menopause symptoms men? Can Counselling for men offer male menopause treatment? Therapy for men or male therapy, also known as mens therapy or psychotherapy for men can be helpful in solving your men's issues, men's problems, male menopause, fatherhood concerns. A male therapist or male counsellor offers male therapy for mens issues, mens problems and fatherhood. In the counselling for men or male counselling, known also as mens therapy or mens counselling, a male therapist or male counsellor provides mens psychotherapy for men, or psychotherapy men. Please note that I use the terms "therapy for men in London", "counselling for men in London", "counselling in Camden Town", "counselling Kings Cross", "psychotherapy for men in London" as well as "male therapy London", "male counselling London" or male "psychotherapy london" and also "men's therapy london", "men's counselling London" and "men's psychotherapy London" interchangeably. I am trained & accredited as a male counsellor, male psychotherapist & talking therapist for males, dads, fathers and I am happy to discuss with you how to be a father, how to be a dad.

London Counselling For Men, Therapy For Men

Men draw strength from each other in order to make sense of their lives.
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Therapy For Men's Issues - Male Behaviour Patterns, Men's Problems Blaming, polarising men, as if there is something wrong with us, is unhelpful. We may have certain struggles, challenges, and the counselling for men can explore these further:

The chief lesson I have learnt in a long life is that the only way to make a man trustworthy is to trust him;
and the surest way to make him untrustworthy is to distrust him and show your distrust.
Henry L. Stimson
London Counselling for Men, Male Counselling in London, Mens Counselling London - male therapist, male counsellor, male psychotherapist - male menopause, fatherhood, men's problems

Therapy For Men's Issues, Men's Challenges We all need our sword and shield at times, alongside armour to protect us, yet also to loosen it, lay it down at other times, be at the same time emotionally connected, emotionally intelligent (without having to necessarily emasculate ourselves) and the counselling for men can support us in this. Some of us may have missed initiation into manhood, when it takes courage, effort to maybe travel, start a business, be challenged in life, out in nature, sport. We learn about masculinity and connect from the energy of other men, what other men do and how they are, individually & collectively. As the Ryder cup captain Jose Olazabal eloquently put it "All men die, but not all men live. And you have made me feel alive again..." The therapy for men may also explore who are our male role models, who we look up to, what men we value, the qualities of manhood. Being a man presents its own challenges or conflicts:

Therapy For Men's Issues - Relating, Communicating, Interacting Some of us men don't find it easy to show up in life, our relationships, relate or communicate with other men or women (see also Relating, Connecting With Women). We may have internalised things, put up a barrier - necessary & important for protection at times (though not always helpful), yet at the same time hide behind things, e.g. technology, or always feel compelled to convey we are more confident, important than we are. For some the pressure to be perceived as always capable, trying to be the strong one, be a provider, protector, can be too much. Maybe overly focused on work, achieving, providing, protecting, we may have an unhealthy work-life balance. Other aspects of us may have been overlooked. We may have moods, yet not know why. We may become dissatisfied, miserable, irritable, grumpy, domineering, aggressive in ways we would rather not and despite our age, maturity, end up sulking. We may become emotionally avoidant, struggle with small talk, empathy, the nuances of communication, especially in our relationship, where our partner finds it difficult to reach us or we them, as if we just must "get on with it". We may have become reliant on our partner to "do the emotional stuff" relate with others. We may also want to be more comfortable with not only having our own space, but also being "present" with what we feel & how to express our feelings, open-hearted, emotional responsiveness, without withholding or attacking. It can be as if we need to give ourselves permission to do this. We may struggle to let people in. We may find it difficult to relax, be playful, as we interact. Some of us may be stuck in our head - living in a binary world, cut things off, finding it hard to open up or be comfortable in our own skin or body, struggling to keep up or relate with our partner or others. Some of us may be experiencing a sort of midlife crisis, recognising what was is no longer so, rendering us feeling loss, grief (maybe of our younger self), vulnerability or anger (and we may cover this up with humour). We may be seeking a male therapist to explore these mens issues.

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Counselling For Men, Carrying The World On Our Shoulders Sometimes the burden of what it means to be a man can feel too much, as if we are carrying the world on our shoulders and we always have to "get on with it", as if there is no alternative (maybe believing it's weak if we can't solve all our problems or talk about things). Soldiering on, martyr-like, in controlling-like ways, we may struggle to connect with other men, the world around us, our being as well as our doing (we may also struggle with the balance between not just talking about things and taking action). The counselling can explore the nature of any of our ingrained rigid, fixed beliefs, what burdens we carry, whether we are willing to lighten them (see also Openness To Our Light-Heartedness, Playfulness, Carefreeness, Laughter, Fun & Our Sense Of Humour), let them go.

It is difficulties that show what men are. Epictetus
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Counselling For Men, Being A Man - Work, Achieving, Providing, Protecting, Initiating Sometimes we can be a very different person at work to how we are at home. Having ambition, targets, setting goals, achieving things can be important for us (see also Being Overdemanding - Our Own Taskmaster). We may get a lot from the reward of our work, our strengths, accomplishing things and being a good provider, protector, defender, also enjoying life's competitiveness, adventures, pleasures, being physically strong. Protecting ourself, our partner, family may also matter. We may enjoy making things happen, initiating things, be very task-oriented, got to do this, got to do that, become very intense (maybe domineering), driving our mind to tasks - pushing ourselves (and maybe others). We can be a different person at work to when we are at home. Yet other aspects of us as a man may have got ignored. For some this may be at the cost of being in the moment, in touch with our own self trust & inner life - aspects of us which aren't achievement-focused or work-related. (So work-driven we can overlook who is driving - our Self.) Our tasks as men may also include redefining our tasks - ones that aren't just about work-achievement, or so heavily focused on our provider role. We may be striving so hard, it can be as if we have to always prove things or gain wealth to provide, be respected. As a man it may be important for us to have a leadership role, be decisive, determined, go out and get what we want in the world, be successful and respected, take responsibility. Some of us may have a strong externally based sense of worth, at the cost of our own intrinsic sense of worth, or overwork to numb our emotions (or to the detriment of our close relationships - showing up in them). We may struggle to pick up our spear and lay it down at times we need to (the Chinese proverb refers to "It's better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war"). We may want to live a powerful, yet softer life, let go a bit, relax, be at ease, open our heart, have empathy, explore satisfying, loving relationships, value and appreciate things, have some peace of mind, connect to what our life means to us, our purpose, basing our esteem on who we are (not so rigidly focused on what we do). The counselling for men can be a place to talk about, explore our personal challenges as a man.

Why am I soft in the middle
Why am I soft in the middle, now?
Why am I soft in the middle?
The rest of my life is so hard.
Paul Simon
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Therapy For Men's Issues - Male Therapist, Male Counsellor We may be seeking a male psychotherapist, or specific relationship counselling or marriage counselling for men (e.g. stereotypes of certain commitment concerns, intimacy issues, struggling with empathy, not crying, which can render us lonely). Another stereotype may be "boys don't cry". We may be seeking different structures in our life - ones that work for us or have very specific men's problems or concerns:

Our Relationships As A Man We may experience certain challenges as a man in our relationship:

I think I caught his spirit
Later that same year
I'm sure I heard his echo
In my baby's new born tears.
I just wish I could have told him
In the living years...
I know that I'm a prisoner to all my father held so dear
I know that I'm a hostage, to all his hopes and fears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years
Mike & The Mechanics - The Living Years

Counselling For Men - The Eternally Youthful Man As Mohammed Ali said "If a man looks at the world when he is 50 the same way he looked at it when he was 20 and it hasn’t changed, then be has wasted 30 years of his life". Some of us may be fun to be with yet struggle to grow up and living with no particular purpose or passion. (I am reminded of the Roger Daltrey line "Oh, I was just a boy, giving it all away...") If we feel like a boy-man, we may especially struggle to explore, discover our own depth, relate, connect with women, other men, be present.

When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child:
but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
C.S.Lewis in Shadowlands referring to the bible, 1 Corinthians 13:11

Relating, Connecting With Women Maybe more in our head, coming from a binary way of seeing things (see also Concrete Thinking, Rigid Thinking, Thinking In Absolutes & Over-Generalising - All Or Nothing Thinking, Either/Or Thinking, Duality), we may be more comfortable relating with some men through our achievements, literal, logical, rational or intellectual side, easier than with women who may value us expressing our inner feelings, ability to decode the various illogical, baffling, contradictory signals we receive. Many women seek men who are not just practical but confident, tender, emotionally strong, respectful, loyal and courageous, are fulfilled in themselves who remain present and don't withdraw and remain engaged with our whole heart, mind, body and soul in all our experiences. Listening, empathising without stepping in with solutions, fixing, needing approval, may be a challenge for some of us. If we are in a relationship with a woman, some of us may end up doing what we "should" be doing, but not from the inside. Some women may want us to have the capacity to receive as well as give love feel and respond to the many signals we receive without losing our sense of vulnerability, confidence, perseverance, power, light-heartedness, playfulness, carefreeness, laughter, fun and our sense of humour so we powerfully love, love powerfully, cherish our partner (see also Energy Of Love - Being In Touch With A Real Love), speak our truth, come from our safe space as a man.

Psychotherapy For Men - Sexuality, Sexual Expression Some of us may fear trusting others, vulnerability, intimacy, touch and sex. We may lack confidence, have anxiety about our sexual performance, have a certain sex problem, seek a healthier sex life or have certain expectations, attitudes, beliefs & thoughts which get in the way. Rather than receiving, some of us may be overly focused on climax, orgasm, outcomes, goals, positions, performance, techniques, treat sex like a sport or be stuck in our head. There may be underlying considerations in our relationship. Wondering what it is to be a man in the bedroom, we may struggle to be fully engaged, close and intimate, emotionally connect (see also Relating, Connecting With Women), be present with what puts a glow, fire, into our belly, our masculine sexual energy. How to respond to our drives, urges, impulses, passion, desire, aspirations, fantasies & imagination may be challenging. Our level of pornography use may have become a problem, which can affect our erections. Erection nervousness may be an issue for some. There may be psychological influences affecting us as a sexual man. (See also Desire, Eros, Passion, Love, Obsession, Unconscious Considerations)

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Therapy For Men's Issues - Men & Power What it means to be a complete man can be explored in the male counselling or therapy for men. Some of us may feel lost, stuck, drifting. We may have lost our focus. What being powerless, impotent, stoic, empowered, powerful, being in our own authority, robust, taking a stand when we need to, assertive, healthily aggressive - getting out into the world, getting what we want means to us. Whether we use personal power to control others, to have power over them, how transactional and competitive we are, whether we want power at all costs, including loving relationships, any wounds we have from our own father, emotional responsiveness, opening our heart, can be explored in the therapy for men, alongside our relationship to our own potency, sexual potency. How to be powerful, loving and wise may be challenging for some, and the male therapy or counselling for men can be a space to look into this further.

Where love rules, there is no will to power, and where power predominates, love is lacking.
The one is the shadow of the other.
Carl Jung

Therapy For Men's Issues - Male Menopause There is still much debate whether or not male menopause exists. Male menopause can be seen as a slowing down of men's functions, affecting male libido, mood swings, depression in men. Men's lifestyle factors also play a part. Male menopause has often been spoken about in terms of physical symptoms, yet male menopause may also be linked with existential despair, male midlife crisis or existential angst, struggling to respond with the depths of suffering & love, starting an affair.

Only a man who has felt ultimate despair is capable of feeling ultimate bliss. Alexandre Dumas

Qualities Of Manhood, What Does It Mean To Be A Man - Being The Man We Want To Be Navigating our way through life as a man has its challenges. The impact and pressures of being a man in the world, not knowing things can affect our esteem and sense of worth. How we see ourself affects our manhood (as William Blake writes: "As a man is, so he sees"). Although initiating things, being out in the world, ambitious, successful, respected, achieving things can be important for us, there may be a price we pay. At times it can be as if we carry the world on our shoulders. Lonely at times, we may want to explore our need to belong, yet also feel separate. In the men's therapy we may want to personally explore the question about what it means to be a man - a man with our grief, pain, anger, strength, wisdom, kindness, playfulness, light-heartedness, joy & love. We may want to be present, have internal presence, be strong, stand upright, yet are flexible, like the oak and willow trees, and fully engaged, willing, know we are OK. We may want to be strong in our own authority, robust, able to defend ourself without being defended. Acknowledging our competitiveness we may want to balance this with the power of living a softer life. Being grounded in our core (our "being" - not just our "doing"), connected to our power, the energy of our love and what gives our life meaning, purpose may be important for us. We may want to have a stronger sense of our own power, take the reins of our life. This may also connect us within to our inner stillness, balance, being a soulful man, in touch with what puts a glow, fire into our belly, alongside our masculine sexual energy, sexual expression, our potency, sexual potency, being in tune with our strong vulnerability. Some may want to easily access, feel and express our feelings, our needs, be authentic, powerfully love and love powerfully, stand in our own truth, speak our truth, be emotionally responsive with open heart and live a more spiritually connected life. We may also want to take responsibility for showing up in our relationships and our role as a dad, father. The therapy for men may also explore the male role models in our life and how we want to live our life to our full potential.

Man, sometimes it takes you a long time to sound like yourself. Miles Davis


Therapy For Men's Issues - Becoming A Father Some of us may want to have children, be a father, parent, yet for others we may be very ambivalent about this. Some may have fertility, infertility, sexual concerns or have a partner, who has had a pregnancy termination, which affects us. The impact of not having the children can affect us and some men may mourn the loss of not being a dad, father, which we may need to talk about. Being a father, especially for the first time, can bring up a lot of powerful responses, feelings, thoughts we have, yet may find difficult to talk about. Not only can being a father be so rewarding, it can also be a lonely & confusing time. The birth of our child, and what this means, can bring strong reactions & emotions in some men. When we first hear the news of the pregnancy, we may feel proud, happy, burdened, overwhelmed, or experience contradictory emotions. Having a child can be a proud, joyful & fulfilling experience for some men, who never look back. Yet other men may struggle with fatherhood, be challenged with their new role & responsibility as a father, and what this means to them now as a man, partner, husband. And how to be a dad or a father may be a concern. Struggling to find our new place, role, we may feel marginalised. Fatherhood and how do we find the "father in us" may be a challenge. We may have always wanted to be a father, never wanted to be a father, or hold ambivalent feelings about being a father, towards our child or partner. Thoughts about lost freedom & how to embrace our new responsibility may swirl around. Male counselling or therapy for men can be a space where you can talk about fatherhood what it means to be a father.

A boy needs a father; in order to love himself as a man, he needs the love of a man. John Bradshaw
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Therapy For Men's Issues - Adjusting To Our Role As A Father Being a parent itself can bring its own challenges and we need to find our place as a father. Some may question our role of being a father, dad and changing relationship with our partner. Our partner may have been used to carrying a baby for 9 months and may have already formed a bond or attachment, and it may take us a period of adjustment towards adapting to becoming a father, bonding with our child and this new arrangement. We may see the mother of our new child being intimate with them, having little time to be intimate with us. Despite our age or maturity some of us may feel on the side-lines and changing role to nurture the nurturer, struggling to cope and adjust with our new role as a father. Maintaining intimacy and being sexual again as a couple may have been put on the back burner. Our partner and our relationship may have changed and we may struggle to adapt & adjust to these new circumstances, our new role, responsibilities as a father. (Instead of talking about this, we may immerse ourselves more into work, or pornography). Fatherhood for us can have its own reactions. Some of us may focus on physical, provider role, maybe financial security, yet overlook our nurturing role and steadying influence. We may feel under pressure, very confused, alone or isolated. We may have powerful, complex, contradictory, unexpected feelings, thoughts & reactions as a man & father, and these can be aired in the therapy for men. The therapy can also be a space to talk about fatherhood, what it means to be a father, our relationship with our own father, if we wish (e.g. were we loved, respected as a man by our own father, our sensitivities valued). Some of us may grieve what was with our partner or life, is no longer. In this new phase of our relationship or marriage we may struggle to embrace and adapt to the changes in our relationship or marriage. Viewing & valuing our partner both as a sexual woman & as a mother (same sex couples may have similar concerns) and how we respond to a sex life, which may be different, may be a concern. We may want to see a male therapist, explore fatherhood, what this transition means for us in this new phase of life, relationship or marriage. Our relationship to our own father may come to the fore.

And, when we say that man is responsible for himself, we do not mean that he is responsible only for his own individuality,
but that he is responsible for all men.
Jean-Paul Sartre

Psychotherapy Men I am an experienced male therapist, working with men & a range of men's issues you bring. The male therapy or counselling for men & men's therapy can offer an opportunity to ruminate over life in general, what concerns, challenges you, so you live your life to your full potential.

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