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Social Media Addiction
Social media makes it easier for us to reach out and maintain contact with others, join in, be part of social groups (and even cave men and women posted things on each other's walls). In certain relating states, we can share our thoughts, emotions, what we are doing with others close to us with people we don't even know (or think we know), receive feedback, make connections. On a practical level social networking can help us plan to meet others. Social media also has the advantage of bringing people together into interest groups. We can seek others out, interact with others, be part of something, create or join our own "tribes". We may only relate on the surface. We may have turned to blogs or social networking as a distraction or to get away from other problems. Important as engaging with social media is for us, we may have a sense of shallowness and need depth, meaningful and intimate relationships offline. We may be sacrificing all the benefits of close and physical connection, the spoken word for the written word. Focusing on the image we want to project to others, settling for superficial relationships, we may have increased the number of online "friends", be "connected" - some of whom we've never met, letting our guard down and exchanging intimate information, yet avoiding intimacy being real with people closest to us. We may have a social media compulsion and find it difficult to take a pause, reflect, discern and discriminate, monitor our emotions, establish rounded, textured relationships including real, intimate, sexual ones, so these real life encounters don't undermine our online world and stop us fully living a rounded life.
What We Reveal We may have become disinhibited in what we say. Words sent and received can have very different meanings, emphasis for the sender, receiver, and become easily misinterpreted. Sometimes using emojis ☺ may be a direct, simple way of stating how we feel. For some, our curiosity and interest in social media can get out of hand, we may struggle to take responsibility for the impact of what we say (see also Over-Talking, Oversharing - Balance Between Withholding Or Sharing All Our Thoughts, Over-Talking, Oversharing - Whether Or Not To Share Our Feelings - Taking Responsibility & Care For Our Feelings). Becoming disinhibited at times, especially if flirting, we may end up sending ill-thought messages, images, yet later regret this. Cyber bullying may take place. Records of images, what is said, can be very hard to remove, change or withdraw. Some of us may overlook the fact that many social media sites, social media apps, are owned by large corporations, or that anonymity is not always so.
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Social Media Obsession Some of us may constantly look up, check what others are doing, who they are seeing, what they are up to. Finding it hard to resist looking, searching - translating things based on our own insecurities, we may find out things we didn't want to find out, see things we would not rather see, interpreting things, words, images. Some of us may be obsessed with social media, looking how other people are doing with their highly selective images of "usually happier" lives with "more or better friends", etc. (and often unfavourably comparing us with others). If we become competitive, envy and jealousy may creep in if we and others promote an online distorted or disguised, almost fantasy version of ourselves, falsifying our beliefs. We may be obsessing about others (including past lovers, current partners of our ex) - lurking, almost stalking others online. Forever checking up on others online can be as if we have a social media addiction, unable to stop. Worrying what others think about us, our social media addiction can end up eroding our self-worth. We may feel like we are missing out on something interesting, better or more exciting, and the more we look into what other people are up to, the more wounded we may become and we may beat ourself up. Like a drug, continuously searching for something, some of us may focus our attention so much onto what others are doing that we may overlook, be out of touch with how we are, as if something is missing in us, as our attention span diminishes. We may need a lot of attention, approval, recognition, validation, appreciation yet struggle to give these to ourselves, be present, enjoying the here and now. Increasing our social network in cyber space we may have decreased our social networking offline. Struggling to take downtime, things may have become out of balance. Popular online, we may experience hollowness, unfulfilment, emptiness, isolation, loneliness or alienation, a gap inside as if our real feelings are ignored. Our connection with nature, other interests, may have dwindled. We may have what some call social media addiction, social network addiction. (See also Online Chat Addiction, Chat Room Addiction & Internet Dating Addiction)
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Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO) Some of us may experience a fear of missing out on things. Fuelled by social media, FOMO counselling can explore this phenomenon of getting overly anxious that an event or something interesting or exciting is happening elsewhere.
Social Media Addiction Side Effects Switching on our computer we may end up switching off inside, blocking things out, shutting things down. When online, we may also lack restraint or the ability to filter what's relevant, as if our urges have to be followed or that what people say has to be believed. We may be worried about the amount of time we spend on social media sites or blogging, maybe even hiding this from others. We may make vague promises to cut down one day, yet wonder how else we will fill our time. Freeing up our life again, emotionally connecting with ourself may be important. For some continuously going on to social media sites may affect our offline emotional relationships or indeed our work. Other things important to us may have been neglected. Bored inside we may turn to social media which after a while may compound our boredom. We may not only have started to neglect us, but also our relationship and our social skills, contact with nature. We may have become too dependent on social media, that our sleeping habits and diet may also be affected. Our short term memory may also suffer. When it gets to this stage, it can be as if we have become a social media addict or social networks addict. Our online social media addiction and blog addiction for some may be linked with our shyness. So when online, we can feel re-affirmed. Yet we can be obsessively immersed in social media, struggling to put our social media usage into proportion, some of us may begin to live in a more fantasy world. If we become overly preoccupied or addicted to social media our moods may rise and dip, dependent on our social media usage.
Ironically, in spite of all our social media connections, we may have a nagging sense of loneliness, isolation, emptiness or alienation and have diluted our other communication skills. We don't want to continue with it, yet we do. This may point to our compulsive need to connect, which may be explored in the social media addiction therapy. Preoccupied, we may prioritise using social media forgetting other important things in our life and also procrastinate. Using social media as a distraction we may have distracted from the physical world and nature, our health may suffer, alongside our groundedness, being in tune with all our senses, e.g. touch, smell, etc. and having other structures in place, away from social media. Out of control or obsessive at times, losing our boundaries, showing signs of being a social media addict, having a social media addiction we may want to address this in the social media addiction counselling. On a practical level, filtering our notification settings may act as a boundary. This may mean exploring any underlying triggers for turning to social media. These may include feelings of anxiety, uncertainty, boredom, the unconscious behaviour and benefits of what's in it for us and the conscious behaviour and reflection of what we value.
Social Networking Marketing Networking and marketing through social media we may struggle to know what and when is enough. Immersed into social media marketing, networking, spending an inordinate amount of time, resources and we may have developed a social media obsession, social marketing addiction.
Blog Obsession, Blog Addiction Some of us enjoy blogging for the simple pleasure of it. Blogs can also give a sense of importance and identity - to be somebody. We can be part of something. Yet we may show signs of being a blogging addict. Some of us may not know what is enough blogging and when to stop. We may have developed a blog obsession, be called a blog addict or have a blog addiction. Addiction counselling can offer support in overcoming this.
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Counselling Questions Regarding Blog Addiction, Social Network Addiction We may have some questions about blog obsession, being a blog addict, blog addiction, addiction to social networking, social media, e.g.:
- Blog addict - am I a blog addict?
- Blog addiction - I have a blog obsession, is there such a thing as blog addiction?
- Blogs addiction - how harmful is addiction to blogs?
- Social networks addiction - is there such a thing as social networking addiction?
- Addiction to social networking - how harmful is social networking addiction, being a social networking addict?
- Does social media addiction exist?
- Am I a social media addict?
- Social media obsession - do I have a social media addiction?
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