Counselling & Psychotherapy

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Motivation & Willpower

Freeing The Will What we tell ourselves influences our will. Not only do our actions have an impact on us & others, but so too do our inactions. Some of us can spend more time than we would like observing things, rather than taking the reins of our life, connecting to what matters, doing what we need to do, participating in the world. We may feel confident and able to act in certain aspects, yet not in other areas. However motivated we are, we can also become unmotivated at times, or procrastinate. Our stress, fear or anxiety can get in the way of what we want to change, prohibiting us from being in touch with our will and acting on this. FeeIing inertia & lacking momentum (or being motivated to avoid, block things), sometimes it is as if our personal will seems stuck (as if we have no will or somewhere inside holding on to the will in remaining the same). Recovering our will, so we can access it again, may be important for us. Some people may want to move away from their passivity or vacant frame of mind, no longer wanting to be unmotivated, unfocused or simply going along with things for the sake of it. Our motivation may flow in cycles, peaks & troughs. Being in the moment, enjoying life or being enthusiastic can support us. The counselling can offer support in freeing the will (when we have a direct experience of our will existing), so we can mobilise our resources and are able to act from our core self, without being in reaction, being in our own structure in our own ground. Sensing our free will may be important for some. Being in touch with our own path may be important for others. There may be an unacknowledged part of us, who has an investment in things not changing, and this aspect of us will need to be taken into consideration.

Accessing Motivation, Acting From Our Personal Will Other people and numerous experiences can motivate us, as can a book, film, etc. Money can be a motivator for some. However being curious, capturing our own ideas, allowing them to flourish, build momentum, can be most motivating, satisfying, because it's source is from us. Spending time, allowing our ideas to develop, imagining, visualising the end result & benefits, can help support us. Believing in our ideas can help motivate us into action, as we follow it through by starting to do something. Motivation – our inner drive, can be seen as our fuel, which puts a glow or fire in our belly, powers our actions, and it is the result of our actions, which also create our Iife experience. Connecting to the source of "our want" - having a personal will, our life force, can be a desire for some, so we put our hopes, intention, passions, aspirations & focus into action, doing what it takes to make things tangibly happen. Counselling & psychotherapy can explore where our curiosity, ideas, may be taking us, and how we want to get there. (See also Connecting To Our Own Inner Direction)

What Matters & Motivates Us Being in touch with what's important - with what you want in your heart of hearts, what's the right thing, may support you. Being in touch with what puts fire or passion in our belly may also be important to us. You may also want to choose or discover the nature of your intentions, whether they are good without doing damage to yourself or others. The counselling & psychotherapy will explore what matters to you (including your entitlement & what you will & won't settle for), your life focus, alongside your feeIings, beliefs, the way you perceive reality as well as your aims, hopes, dreams, imagination, inspiration, creativity, aspirations & values. For some their source of personal power & motivation (their personal will) may seem locked away (unconscious - maybe stuck), and for others - be present, yet not fully utilised or engaged as they struggle to pursue things important to them, set their mind to a task, or be in touch with their strong, burning desires – not just a wish or a hope.

What We Do With The Will You may want to become more aware of the source of your motivation, how you make decisions & what determines them (including your passions, thoughts, beliefs, actions & reactions, how you deliberate & make up your mind to act, remain focused & carry out your intention). And when we are motivated, we are usually more confident. The therapy may therefore review how you access & enhance your motivation, take charge of your own destiny, what gives you impetus & how you put your volition - will (what drives you) into action. Mobilising our own resources to act, sometimes taking small steps, other times - a leap of faith, may support us. Things don't only happen to us, we can also influence them. The act of willing has many stages requiring our engagement, effort & energy. Once we are in touch with our desire & intention, knowing what we want to do, it can be a challenging next step to make a decision & act upon it, making things tangibly happen. We may be willful, disciplined, yet lack a light touch, be without love or lonely inside. Being in touch & relating with others in the world - not only your individual goals - may be a further challenge. We may also want to get in touch with the will & existence beyond the personal - what some people describe as expanding to the collective, universal or spiritual will, linked to life's purpose - as if we are being will. (For details see Connecting To Our Own Inner Direction)

Willpower - Following Our "No" Or "Yes" Directing our attention, focus or concentration towards something important and sustaining it may be an issue for some - what we do with our will. Some of us may have difficulty deciding, completing things. Others can start off enthusiastically, yet it doesn't last. This may point to the attitudes we hold and the interest we have. Our willpower can get tested, when we have to decide between what we would like to do and what is best for us - what we really ought to do, so it adds to our life. Sometimes not doing something is the right choice for us and saying "No" to something can be a "Yes" to us, when we follow what we really want to do - what really matters. Other times applying ourself, building up our strength, so we can overcome similar testing situations, may be of more benefit. Choosing & aligning our self to follow the impetus of our "No" or "Yes" may be our challenge. Willpower alone may not be enough for some - there may be a part of us that wants to change, yet another who is stopping this, even sabotaging things, maybe uncosciously. And this part of us can also be explored in the counselling & psychotherapy.

Willpower - Our Resolve It is part of the human condition to persist, even though circumstances are not ideal. The therapy may therefore explore your persistence, perseverance & determination - what happens to it when stretched or in uncomfortable situations. Picking ourselves up after a fall, pulling our self together finding our way through things, is a challenge to us all. Our resilience & personal boundaries can give us inner strength, support our willpower, so we can take the right action, focus, control our impulses & reactions. Being in touch with our want, calling upon the inner strength of our willpower to maintain focus and take the right action can be a challenge. Making a commitment with our resolve & sticking to it maybe a concern for some. Others may want to remain focused, putting their attention where they want to put it, avoid distractions, tiredness, boredom. Training our willpower over time supports our self-control, builds up our tolerance, enabling us to resist temptations, re-focus, avoid roads we would not rather go down, so we can protect & nourish the things worthwhile in our life. We may also look at the role of courage, hope, self-doubt, compassion, personal faith & trust.

Our Determination Some of us may have a lot of determination, not allowing anything to get in the way, enabling us to move forward until we get when we need to get. Our determination can make things possible, yet when we don't get immediate results, we may become restless, impatient, struggling to understand that some things take time and happen when the time is right. Balancing our determination, discipline with our patience may be challenging for some.